#autchat Transcript
Healthcare social media transcript of the #autchat hashtag.
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 | Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian RT @autchatmod: Last Sunday's #autchat on setting boundaries: Last Sunday's #autchat on setting boundaries: https://t.co/SPvdCnDmuN |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian Ready? https://t.co/egkWHNqALa |
 | #AutChat mod @autchatmod Welcome to #autchat, a weekly chat for autistic & similar people Sundays 8pm UTC / 9pm BST / 4pm EDT! https://t.co/rRrhi8Ysri |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod #autchat is a tag for autistic people & "autistic cousins" (people with similar experiences due to hydrocephalus, cerebral palsy, ADHD, etc) |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod #autchat hosts chats on many topics related to our experiences as neurodivergent people. See our past topics here: https://t.co/F56bZKXGAW |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod #autchat welcomes autistic/similar people whether formally diagnosed, self-dx'd, or questioning/wondering if they are autistic/similar. |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod #autchat posts transcripts of the weekly chats; please tell @autchatmod if you don’t want your tweets included. |
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| #AutChat mod @autchatmod How to participate in #autchat and other twitter chats: https://t.co/SkuXgvACRk |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Questions are prefaced Q0, Q1, Q2, etc. When you reply, preface tweets with A0, A1, A2, etc and include "#autchat" so others see them! |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Q0: Introduce yourself! Say anything you like abt yourself or interest in today's #autchat topic: Boundaries, safety, & boundary violations. |
 | Scott Morizot @tmorizot A0: 52 yo late dx (6/2016) husband, father, and grandfather. Boundaries have been tricky my whole life. #autchat |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod As a quick aside, we have >20 topic suggestions on our future topics list—we want to hit most of them but it may take a while... #autchat |
 | Megan @secretcatfacts hi #autchat! Q0: my name is megan. i'm a cool friendly autistic who loves podcasts, cats, autism facts, and stimming all day. ✨ |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod I usually pick topics based on what I can write most effectively, but if you suggested a topic and want to get to it sooner, #autchat |
 | Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr Hello #autchat -- I am Daniel and I am definitely interested in today's topic. I keep thinking about therapists/teacher who cross the line. |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod and are willing to write or help collaborate on questions, I do those much sooner. #autchat |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian Hi #autchat friends! Julia here. I love the topic of boundaries, sad I missed last week. |
| Megan @secretcatfacts hi #autchat! messed up first time on a0, but - name is megan. i'm (almost) 19. special interests are cats, podcasts, and autism (oops). |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Today’s #autchat deals with some difficult topics. Remember that if you need to, you can step away and do some self-care. |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Q1 How do you cope when you set a boundary, and someone else won’t (or can’t) respect it? #autchat |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian A0 I was so naive, I thought all people were like me, kind and honest. Establishing boundaries with unsafe people is a process. #autchat |
 | Heen @Heenthedog Hi 48 yr old autistic late diagnosed and just abt coping #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A1 I have no idea. This is one thing I know to be a problem but I have no solution. #autchat https://t.co/6gcpZ8aT0X |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian RT @autchatmod: Q1 How do you cope when you set a boundary, and someone else won’t (or can’t) respect it? #autchat |
 | Lauren norman @jrtgirl35 Hi 👋 I'm Lauren I'm 28 , I'm a part time student 👩🎓 I'm into reading, politics, gaming , Harry Potter , Pokémon and GOT #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot A1: That's a hard question. I've never been very good at setting boundaries or enforcing them when I do. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr Like, it's hard to convince certain people I can't deal with surprise physical contact because it is painful. They don't believe me #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot A1.1: So it tends to confuse me. If a stranger, I might get angry and respond defensively. Or might not. #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot A1.2: If someone I care about, will usually adjust my boundary to be what I understand them to expect, need, or want. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr I can hug people -- if I know them well -- but please don't come from behind and tap my shoulder because EEEK!!! #autchat |
 | #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @autchatmod #autchat A1: Usually I have the ability to walk away. If not, I have to internalize something separate to distract myself until I can leave. |
| Lauren norman @jrtgirl35 A1: it really depends on who the person is and if they are family or not if I can just avoid them I will at all costs it gets more #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot A1.3: I'll often go along with whatever is happening and only see and understand in retrospect. #autchat |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian A1 I'm an all or nothing person. If someone can't respect my boundaries I cut them off. #autchat ✌🏾 |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @autchatmod #autchat A1: Continual education for people who are close to you. Took my wife a decade to start understanding some things. |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A1 As a whole, setting boundaries is hard because people think I'm being too sensitive. It's easier to be a pushover. 😞 #autchat |
| Lauren norman @jrtgirl35 A1 continued: difficult if it's someone I have to interact with or if it's a family member in those situations I try an get help #autchat |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian @tmorizot I want to set them, but enforcing is hard. I can't deal with mean or manipulative people. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A1 Especially when it comes to people who hold authority over me. If I oppose an authority figure, my life becomes hell #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot @TheHealstorian I'm not sure how someone can be jaded and cynical but naive and trusting at the same time, but more or less me since childhood #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr I know... not all authority figures. I'm in a much healthier place now and people treat me with more respect, but I'm still jumpy #autchat |
| Lauren norman @jrtgirl35 A1 continued: from someone who can hopefully help get the boundaries I have that are not being respected understood and respected #autchat |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Q2 Have you ever felt too unsafe to communicate a boundary? #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot A2: Yeah. That happens to me all the time. #autchat |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @autchatmod #autchat A2: Does feeling like I'd lose my job count? Because that happened once. |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian Has anyone read the book "Boundaries" by Drs. Cloud and Townsend? #autchat |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian RT @autchatmod: Q2 Have you ever felt too unsafe to communicate a boundary? #autchat |
| Lauren norman @jrtgirl35 A2: No I have lucky not encountered a situation where I feel I cannot safely communicate my boundaries #autchat |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @autchatmod #autchat A2: Also, sometimes I get disparaged while trying to communicate things to my family in the midst of #chaos. #MentalHealth safety? |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian ALL THE TIME! #autchat https://t.co/grch0xLTjV |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr Has there been a time when I felt totally safe communicating boundaries? I'm gonna say no. #autchat A2 https://t.co/vTwkag2FwP |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr Well that's not entirely true. I think my mate has helped me leaps and bounds with this one. We can talk about everything #autchat A2 |
 | Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @jrtgirl35: A1 continued: A1 continued: from someone who can hopefully help get the boundaries I have that are not being respected understood and respected #autchat |
| Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @jrtgirl35: A1 continued: A1 continued: difficult if it's someone I have to interact with or if it's a family member in those situations I try an get help #autchat |
| Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @jrtgirl35: A1: A1: it really depends on who the person is and if they are family or not if I can just avoid them I will at all costs it gets more #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr I think that I've been opening up more as we have gotten to know each other, but there's still a level of trained defensiveness #autchat A2 |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr I have to explicitly teach myself that certain people ar safe to open up to. I don't know why that is, but it is. #autchat A2 |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr @tb_thinker @autchatmod It totally counts. I had a long stint where I was afraid I would lose my job for asserting my boundaries. #autchat A2 |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Q3 Do you ever have difficulty reading others’ boundaries? #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot A3: Usually. Though I'm very careful much of the time and will be tentative unless I'm pretty certain something is okay. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr [cn:violence] One of my classmates was abusive to me. I remember he gave me a hard punch to the gut & I could not stop it. #autchat A2 |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @autisticb4mmr @autchatmod Tried to explain where I was coming from and help educate. They wanted nothing of it and found BS reason to cut me loose. #autchat |
| Lauren norman @jrtgirl35 A2: yes I often worry about how I come across when meeting new people because I can't understand unwriten social boundaries and I #autchat |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @autchatmod #autchat Q3: If I'm directly involved, ALL THE TIME. If I am observing, it's easy. |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr When dealing with bullies and abusers, it was always unsafe to assert myself. I was afraid they'd just double down. #autchat A2 |
| Lauren norman @jrtgirl35 A3: yes I often worry about how I come across when meeting new people because I can't understand unwriten social boundaries and I #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat q1: i honestly don't know what to do a lot of the times when people don't respect boundaries. if its a close friend i might say... |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr @tb_thinker @autchatmod Labor unions help. You've gotta have support. #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a1: i honestly don't know what to do a lot of the times when people don't respect boundaries. if its a close friend i might say... |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot @Autistic_Caleb Happy almost birthday! #autchat |
| Lauren norman @jrtgirl35 A3 continued: sometimes unintentionally crosse people's boundaries I always quickly apologize when told and don't do it again after #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a2 i feel too uncomfortable to state boundaries constantly, you know? one of my biggest problems is my diet bc sensory stuff... |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r #autchat A3: I really try hard to not offend when talking openly with friends, but still can't tell where boundaries are. |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A3 I really like being helpful, but I have not always been good at asking first before "helping" -- I hope I am getting better tho? #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a2 ... and i'd prefer people just left me alone about it and didnt ask questions (which feel invasive), but idk how to set up... |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr @Autistic_Caleb Happy almost birthday!!! 🎉🎉🎉 #autchat |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian RT @secretcatfacts: #autchat a2 ... and i'd prefer people just left me alone about it and didnt ask questions (which feel invasive), but idk how to set up... |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @Autistic_Caleb The closest ones are the toughest ones often. Sorry to hear that. #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a2: ... boundaries there. people keep pushing. other areas too, like how to tell people im not longer comfortable being a self... |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r #autchat A3: I'm usually really good at post-mortem of a situation. Doesn't help the outcome though. |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a2: ...self narrating zoo exhibit. the part of me with a special interest in autistic stuff and a passion for educating people... |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a2: ... wants to start conversations and educate people, but then i end up feeling exhausted and upset. it happens too much. |
| Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @SmileyAutistic: |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian RT @SmileyAutistic: |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian @endeverstar @secretcatfacts Live learned people have to earn a right to your story, your space. #autchat |
| Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @SmileyAutistic: |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Q4 How do you handle it when you accidentally overstep a boundary someone else has set? #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A? I want to learn how to assert a personal boundary without really explaining why I need it there #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot A4: Pull back. Apologize if it seems appropriate. Try to think of a way to fix it. Ask, if feasible. Give space if nothing else. #autchat |
| Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @SmileyAutistic: |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a3: i've definitely stepped over boundaries before. physical ones - not realizing how close i am to people - but other ones as well |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 I think it depends on how receptive the person is to hearing me out. But that's for accidental situations. Those are easier #autchat https://t.co/kZW8Vlr3ot |
| Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @jrtgirl35: A3: A3: yes I often worry about how I come across when meeting new people because I can't understand unwriten social boundaries and I #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a3: making jokes that are hurtful to people without realizing it, asking questions that are not my place to ask. i'm trying 2 learn |
| Heen @Heenthedog A1 bottle it up and spend the next 24 hrs processing and trying to understand I can never deal with the person the same again #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 Most of the time, people are receptive and extremely sensitive. But then people cross the line on purpose, repeatedly, and idk #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a3: how to be as respectful to people as i hope they are to me. it's all about listening! |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 Ok so let's say that dog whistles are painful for you, but allistics can't hear them at all. #autchat |
| Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @SmileyAutistic: |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 They don't feel the pain, so obviously you can't feel the pain, so they keep using the dog whistle. It hurts you so much #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 The pains and the barriers are not visible, so nobody believes you. And then they keep hurting you. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 It is nearly impossible to assert a boundary when people refuse to listen to you or believe your feelings are valid. #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot @endeverstar Failing to recognize or respect someone's boundaries, of any type, is one of the worst things to me. #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a4: i used to be upset and sometimes hostile if i learned i had crossed a boundary, if only because of my own ego. i'm growing and |
| Sarah Nelson @sweetsare RT @SmileyAutistic: |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 Dog whistles aren't actually painful to me, but I needed to use them to illustrate a point. #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a4: realizing that not everything is about me. it's far more important that other people are safe and that i'm respecting them. |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr #autchat https://t.co/UimWeqbEah |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a4: and of course, sometimes there are conflicting boundaries in the same way there are conflicting access needs. it's complicated. |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot @endeverstar Even when it seems that saying or doing anything would do more harm and I withdraw, I obsess over it. #autchat |
| Megan @secretcatfacts #autchat a4: all social relationships, not only romantic ones, thrive on compromise and respect. creating and respecting boundaries often |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot @endeverstar I feel it viscerally any time I recognize it, even if it's later and nobody ever told me. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr @harventesla Nope, I can definitely hear dog whistles! They're loud though 😮 #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot @endeverstar Part of why I'm so cautious. Maybe part of why I'm so vulnerable. I'm trying really hard to catch anything intimated or expressed. #autchat |
| Scott Morizot @tmorizot @endeverstar Some of that is probably my own particular response as an abuse survivor as much or more as anything related to being autistic. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 (for real) I think I've gotten better at responding when I cross the line. I do know ascribe listening is a huge part of it #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 There's the whole line "I don't always dig myself into a hole, but when I do, I keep digging." I learned I can stop digging #autchat |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod The scheduled #autchat is wrapping up. It's fine to keep chatting, join in late, or use the tag at other times! |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Next Sunday’s #autchat is on executive function. Sep 24, 8pm UTC / 9pm BST / 4pm EDT. |
| #AutChat mod @autchatmod Feel free to suggest ideas for #autchat topics (or offer to help write questions)! |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 And generally shutting my mouth is the first response. Shutting my mouth is an excellent response sometimes. Eep! #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 Oh I remember someone called me out because I used a bad word on twitter. It's a slur. I had no idea & they were all "so FYI..." #autchat |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @autchatmod #autchat A4: The question is, first, when do I realize it? Once I do, I apologize immediately. |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr A4 It's helpful to know that accidents happen and that when someone calls me out, it's a sign of true friendship. I appreciate that #autchat |
| #丅ᕼᎥᑎᛕᗴᖇ 🕉️ ; {apt} Ⓥ @_th1nk3r @SmileyAutistic Yes. #this #autchat I ALWAYS tell people I need black and white, no grey. I don't get offended in that. |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr Speaking of boundaries, does anyone find themselves apologizing before they've got the foggiest idea what they've done wrong? #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr Like, I'll get this sense that I have done something bad, and I will want so badly to make it right. But I am not sure what I did. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr In many instances, I have just been hyper cautious and it turns out I've done nothing wrong at all. My mate giggles when I do this #autchat |
| Joy’s Daughter @TheHealstorian RT @secretcatfacts: #autchat a4: #autchat a4: all social relationships, not only romantic ones, thrive on compromise and respect. creating and respecting boundaries often |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr @harventesla Very much so. I am afraid a lot of times that I will lose a dear friend because I have offended them deeply. #autchat |
| Solveig ⚧ - Autistic Acceptance Worldwide @autisticb4mmr @harventesla I even get worried that I'll offend my mate to the point that she will leave me. She is coaching me on this and I'm lots calmer now #autchat |
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