#bpdchat Transcript
Healthcare social media transcript of the #bpdchat hashtag.
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 | BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 Hi 👋 #BPDChat |
 | Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Hello and welcome to #BPDChat - if you feel affected by tonight's chat please contact your country's helpline at https://t.co/GtlNdoZpFo |
 | ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision I have been clean for 17 days, struggling to get my life back on track. Went inpatient got my meds back, trying to re stabilize on them everything was going good. I now have a family member offering me drugs. Angry, of course you can say I'm angry. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr If you're going to post something that may affect others please consider using TW (for Trigger warning) to give others a heads up. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Icebreaker: 'What one thing do you wish people knew about your experience and/or about BPD?' #BPDChat |
 | 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey RT @CarlDunnJr: Before #BPDChat : Before #BPDChat : If you're in the U.S., no matter what your age, you can find support at Crisis Text Line https://t.co/M89kMup2yC |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 @CarlDunnJr Its a real condition. We do not choose to be this way. #BPDchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision How much work I have actually put in myself, that no longer shows, because I have been tore down so many times. And now that I no longer want to be sick I'm putting in tons of extra work but no one credits me because I've bottomed out so many times. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Glass1ncision: How much work I have actually put in myself, that no longer shows, because I have been tore down so many times. And now that I no longer want to be sick I'm putting in tons of extra work but no one credits me because I've bottomed out so many times. #bpdchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @Artful_Kimmie: |
| 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey @CarlDunnJr #BPDChat I wish they knew I have #bpd AND that it’s a real thing |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 RT @Artful_Kimmie: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Alice_DPD: |
 | J. 💋 @jooliooliannaaa This is a big one for me. #bpd #BPDChat |
 | THEE Holliejoyjoy 💙s Madam VP Kamala Harris💙 @HollieJoyJoy RT @CarlDunnJr: Icebreaker: Icebreaker: 'What one thing do you wish people knew about your experience and/or about BPD?' #BPDChat |
 | ♡︎ Snow ♡︎ @AstraySnowflake @CarlDunnJr I wish more people knew about quiet borderlines. I feel as if we go unnoticed and undiagnosed far too often. #BPDChat |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 RT @chloes_worldd: @CarlDunnJr I wish more people knew about quiet borderlines. I feel as if we go unnoticed and undiagnosed far too often. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @livingeupd @CarlDunnJr Very true, excellent point. DBT may not be for everyone but there are treatments for BPD that are developing that may work. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Hi everyone joining in for #BPDChat & a special welcome for everyone here for the first time. |
 | Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful RT @Artful_Kimmie: |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @Alice_DPD: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @mira113: |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @Alice_DPD: |
 | . @shireensbpdlife @livingeupd @CarlDunnJr Very true! #BPDChat |
 | Becky, just Becky. @ThatBWord1 RT @mira113: |
 | Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr I wish they figured this out 30 years ago- it would have resolved going through all those meds that weren't right fo me and helped with that tornado of emotions. #BPDchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @GemmaLuescher: @CarlDunnJr I wish they figured this out 30 years ago- it would have resolved going through all those meds that weren't right fo me and helped with that tornado of emotions. #BPDchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr Great point! #bpdchat |
| J. 💋 @jooliooliannaaa Agreed. This is how it goes for me far too often. #bpd #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @sam_thomas86: |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @sam_thomas86 @CarlDunnJr Yes. While being diagnosed, I was told it is "a certain way of being in the world." It feels a little gentler that way. #bpdchat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful RT @sam_thomas86: |
| ♡︎ Snow ♡︎ @AstraySnowflake @CarlDunnJr I wish people would stop comparing bpd to bipolar disorder #BPDChat |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr People with physical and/or intellectual disabilities can also battle with BPD. We shouldn't be expected to have this ultra thick skin. We are expected to endure when people think less of us because we are already different. In addition we are more vulnerable to abuse,#bpdchat |
 | BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @CarlDunnJr #BPDChat How to handle me sometimes. I bottle up my emotions and it usually comes out in the form of anger that I take out on the first person that pisses me off. I don't mean to, it just happens that way. |
| THEE Holliejoyjoy 💙s Madam VP Kamala Harris💙 @HollieJoyJoy RT @mira113: |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @lunarruler: @CarlDunnJr #BPDChat How to handle me sometimes. I bottle up my emotions and it usually comes out in the form of anger that I take out on the first person that pisses me off. I don't mean to, it just happens that way. |
 | Borderline Confused @BPDConfused Hello my beautiful #BPDPeeps #bpdchat For me the most dificult thing is that people read sh!t on the internet and then say that all BPD is the same. Some people with BPD do nasty things sure, but that is true about everyone. We are unique just like evereybpdy else |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @mira113 @hom3rjfong @CarlDunnJr Second that. What's worse is, it doesn't take much at all for me to interpret literally anything as abandonment. #BPDChat |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @BpdBryan @CarlDunnJr I know it presents differently in men, but men have it for sure. The self harm presents differently as well( like punching hands through walls, provoking fights to get beaten up on purpose. As well as the typical cutting , or burning of self. #BPDchat |
| 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey RT @chloes_worldd: @CarlDunnJr I wish people would stop comparing bpd to bipolar disorder #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @bpdcult @CarlDunnJr This is a big one for me also, people think I choose to be this way. Be sensitive, emotional, dramatic, clingy, mean, unstable, whatever it is people accuse me of choosing it. #bpdchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @lunarruler @ames302 @livingeupd @CarlDunnJr I've done both CBT and DBT at the same time and it was extremely effective for me personally. #bpdchat |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @BpdBryan @CarlDunnJr I bet there are women who do these things as well. But less often. There are so many symptoms and so many versions of self harm. #bpdchat |
| Borderline Confused @BPDConfused #bpdchat also what happens when i feel abandoned. It's like when anyone leaves me I feel alone like they won't come back cause I'm toxic. My shrink says I need to know that I'm an intense person (duuh) and i feel deeply and when they go away I feel ultra sad Lemme think about it |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision That I do, I really do, have a lot of shame and guilt for the things I have done. #bpdchat |
 | sadisfactiion @leoafxx @CarlDunnJr I wish they could be me one day so they could experience what is to be rushed by your emotions. And they could see in not easy to control yourself and I’m really trying and workind on my therapy and myself. I’m not crazy or lazy I just have really bad days sometimes. 😪 #BPDchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @BPDConfused: #bpdchat also what happens when i feel abandoned. It's like when anyone leaves me I feel alone like they won't come back cause I'm toxic. My shrink says I need to know that I'm an intense person (duuh) and i feel deeply and when they go away I feel ultra sad Lemme think about it |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 @ames302 @lunarruler @livingeupd @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr I did compassion based CBT around 2 years ago and did not find it effective for me, I'm now awaiting my first appointment for DBT #BPDchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @sadbitchxx6: @CarlDunnJr I wish they could be me one day so they could experience what is to be rushed by your emotions. And they could see in not easy to control yourself and I’m really trying and workind on my therapy and myself. I’m not crazy or lazy I just have really bad days sometimes. 😪 #BPDchat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @BPDConfused Yes. That whatever hurt they're feeling, it's 2x as bad for me because I know I caused it and I can't figure out how to just stop. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @sadbitchxx6 Hi! Welcome to the chat. Thanks for sharing this. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm glad everyone is here tonight. Now, queuing up tonight's main topic, "Anger". #BPDChat |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @Glass1ncision @ames302 @livingeupd @CarlDunnJr Personally I always come back to talk therapy and that's what works for me. I have a great therapist who listens to me and talks me through things instead of just pushing me onto things. #BPDChat |
 | Ihummingbirdz @ihummingbirdz @CarlDunnJr Wow, anger... my Aquiles anckle 🤦🏻♀️😭 #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Tonight's topic is... Dealing with Anger #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Do you get angry often? Can you describe what it feels like? Does anger cause you problems? #BPDChat |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @livingeupd @ames302 @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr That's understandable. It might not have been right for you. I had a therapist try it with me but I no longer see her because she left the facility I was at. I now do talk therapy with my therapist. It's what works for me. #BPDChat |
| Borderline Confused @BPDConfused @CarlDunnJr #bpdchat @blaisemd @GillianPsyD Agreed about mindfulness book. Its mad difficult to do mindfulness but my mind goes to bad places if i let. In this present moment Im with #BPDpeeps and im loving it. not a bad moment |
 | Survivors against PD #StopSIM #StopOxevision @SurvivorsNotPD #BPDChat #TraumanotPD |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr I wish that I am not spoken to in a condescending tone, I know what's going on with me better than most. If I chose to disclose something, the last thing I need is it being thrown back in my face. #bpdchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision I get very intense anger that jumps straight into rage. It's recently caused a lot of hurt to myself and primarily to others mentally and physically. #bpdchat |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @BPD_Mumof3 @ames302 @livingeupd @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr Hopefully DBT will work out better for you. Some people are just different then others. I hope You find what works best for you. For me it's just talk therapy. #BPDChat |
 | jobu tupak¡ @helovampirehoe @CarlDunnJr I honestly don’t think I have a lot of Anger. I tend to feel more hurt and disappointed than angry (when it comes to people I know). I do, however, lack patience towards strangers/acquaintances #BPDChat #BPDFam |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 @CarlDunnJr Not often no but every now and again I struggle with anger. I feel possessed, that's the only way I can describe it. Normally I'm quite calm #BPDchat |
 | Grace Durbin @Grace_Durbin RT @CarlDunnJr: Do you get angry often? Can you describe what it feels like? Does anger cause you problems? #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @_inthedirtyrain @CarlDunnJr I can identify with this so much. #bpdchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @Alice_DPD: |
| . @shireensbpdlife @CarlDunnJr I get angry over the littlest thing, I never get aggressive towards anyone but myself. #BPDChat |
| Ihummingbirdz @ihummingbirdz @CarlDunnJr Anger, my old friend. I try to not get to that point, but when I do... I dissociate myself. I never remember what I said, I did, 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ and mostly I screw something up. #bpdchat |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr The label is for insurance and diagnostic purposes not for the general public and our family to treat us differently. I didn't choose to get this sick and there's a reason I needed 15 months in a clinic- because I was really sick and needed a lot of care #bpdchat #CPTSD |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @Glass1ncision @ames302 @livingeupd @CarlDunnJr That's true. Where ever you are in life makes a difference in the type of therapy you might need. I hope that people can learn from this and know that if one type of therapy fails for them there is always something different or they can come back. #BPDChat |
 | Elyse Brouhard @ElyseBrouhard I am curious how many mild symptoms of psychosis overlap with symptoms from other conditions. Wanna take this test and post your score? And what diagnoses you have. https://t.co/dG2dBHFyrH #BPD #BPDchat #Trauma #PTSD #mentalillness |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @BPDConfused @blaisemd @GillianPsyD Good to hear! #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision My anger, mentioned in a previous tweet as to why, is just mulling over and over in my brain. I asked for paint but how dare he think he can manipulate me like he is doing. It just makes me see red. Currently panic attack meds aren't calming it down. Dunno what to do. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @imeloweez I'm glad to hear that. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision I'm sorry this is also happening to you. #bpdchat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @CarlDunnJr It feels like perpetual irritability. I get angry at my husband the most for the littlest things. Crumbs on the toaster, seat left up, didn't do the dishes the *right* way. He's a saint but also ends up feeling like a trash person. I hate what I do to him when I'm angry #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @ItzBorderline: @CarlDunnJr Anger, my old friend. I try to not get to that point, but when I do... I dissociate myself. I never remember what I said, I did, 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ and mostly I screw something up. #bpdchat |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @mira113 @BPD_Mumof3 @ames302 @livingeupd @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr Well maybe that wasn't the right type of therapy for you. Hopefully DBT will be better for you. I hope you find something that works for you. Therapy is very important when it comes to mental health. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @mira113: |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @Alice_DPD Cell phone..tea cup..pumpkins... I have thrown many things. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @sam_thomas86: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Do you get angry in certain situations? What situations? #BPDChat |
 | n i a / h e p h @NiA6035 @CarlDunnJr I've joined a kickboxing gym because of it. I've always had blackout anger where I don't remember what was said or what I did. It's scary but therapy, DBT and kickboxing have kept it at bay! #BPDchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision My inpatient was because I was jumping into a rage where I was in a psychotic psychosis and I remembered none of it. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr There's a really good discussion of anger and how DBT suggests handling it (Opposite Action) here. This is from the free transcript of a Marsha Linehan DBT skill video on Opposite Action. #BPDChat https://t.co/lv3WPkA6XU |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Maybe save this for later. -->> There's a really good discussion of anger and how DBT suggests handling it (Opposite Action) here. This is from the free transcript of a Marsha Linehan DBT skill video on Opposite Action. #BPDChat https://t.co/lv3WPkA6XU |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @incorrectfeels @CarlDunnJr Anger is one of the two emotions I always go to when I explode. After I explode I always feel guilty and then I cry and tell myself how bad I am. It's always hard. #BPDChat |
| Grace Durbin @Grace_Durbin RT @CarlDunnJr: There's a really good discussion of anger and how DBT suggests handling it (Opposite Action) here. This is from the free transcript of a Marsha Linehan DBT skill video on Opposite Action. #BPDChat https://t.co/lv3WPkA6XU |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr I get angry when people underestimate me, when people respond with anger towards me, when people say I'm manipulative or dramatic and seeking attention, when people think I'm making my feelings up, and when people seek to hurt the positive gains I've achieved. #bpdchat |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr Anger is an issue forme as for years I never felt I was allowed to express anger. Including in my marriage. As a child in school I would get teased if I expressed anger, at home I got hit if I expressed anger, and same in my marriage. I was a tornado being held under #BPDchat |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @mira113 @BPD_Mumof3 @ames302 @livingeupd @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr That's some positive feedback already then! I am glad you are finding it successful. Good luck on your journey and keep us updated on how it goes. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: There's a really good discussion of anger and how DBT suggests handling it (Opposite Action) here. This is from the free transcript of a Marsha Linehan DBT skill video on Opposite Action. #BPDChat https://t.co/lv3WPkA6XU |
| Borderline Confused @BPDConfused #bpdchat so i was listenting to Alan Fruzeti who developed #DBT with marsha linehan and he says its almost NEVER anger. its mostly that youre sad. When I think about it mostly when I'm angry I was just sad about somthing. feeling sad is vulnerable but it is true so feels better |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @CarlDunnJr When I'm in close relationship/proximity with someone for extended periods of time. They should care about me enough to NOT do that, say that, why do they hurt me, I want to hurt them back so that I'm not the one being pushed away, etc. Strangers are much easier. #BPDChat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @hom3rjfong @CarlDunnJr Routine is HUGE for me, I'm learning. I need consistency. #BPDChat |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr I learned to take it out on myself, or just not allow anger to present itself period. But as a teen I became sepulchral, but couldn't explain that I was actually angry with my situation. #BPDchat #anger |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 Sometimes it feels like im a child, caged while a monster takes over. I say the worst things in the heat of the moment, I know I'm wrong and I instantly regret it but I just can't stop, I literally lose all control, hate myself sometimes #BPDchat |
| Borderline Confused @BPDConfused you go @blaisemd teach the shrinks about #DBT #EndTheStigma #BPD #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpdchat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @hom3rjfong @CarlDunnJr It's hard explaining that to people. They expect me to be resilient, to go with the flow, to just relax. I can't. I am the opposite of flow. I am a tree. Planted. In the ground. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision Invalidating sets me off so quick, so does my feeling of wanting to be validated by the people who love me but who will never be able to provide that validation because they simply do not know how to do that. Emotions in my family are denied and bad to have. #bpdchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @bpdbutbeautiful: @hom3rjfong @CarlDunnJr It's hard explaining that to people. They expect me to be resilient, to go with the flow, to just relax. I can't. I am the opposite of flow. I am a tree. Planted. In the ground. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @mira113: |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @BPD_Mumof3: Sometimes it feels like im a child, caged while a monster takes over. I say the worst things in the heat of the moment, I know I'm wrong and I instantly regret it but I just can't stop, I literally lose all control, hate myself sometimes #BPDchat |
 | Nena Kelly @nena_metro Earlier I was laughing literally, my boyfriend said the coffee was ready and I broke down, actually crying hysterically. It scared me, I thought I was more stable rn. #BPDChat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @Vicki_Cox84 @CarlDunnJr You are strong. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @mira113 It's been noticed that many people experience rage related to feeling rejected or abandoned. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision I also get angry when I get bored, I've came to determine. I guess that's when the shame and guilt start eating away at me and instead of dealing w/ my emotions I get utterly defensive. #bpdchat |
| 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey #BPDChat Besides pretty much what everyone has said X 1000.. in one word ~ invalidated |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: @mira113 It's been noticed that many people experience rage related to feeling rejected or abandoned. #BPDChat |
| Nena Kelly @nena_metro @RobinTetley @CarlDunnJr It’s frustrating as hell when loved ones say they know what you have, but don’t understand the severity of it. I’m going through that right now. But I understand how you feel, it’s terrifying. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @unicornpixxie @CarlDunnJr I do the same. I'm sorry you also experience anger towards yourself in such a damaging way. I have done this countless times and thought I was the only one. #bpdchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @nena_metro: @RobinTetley @CarlDunnJr It’s frustrating as hell when loved ones say they know what you have, but don’t understand the severity of it. I’m going through that right now. But I understand how you feel, it’s terrifying. #BPDChat |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 @ames302 @CarlDunnJr Yep. I can't cope with routine changes either. The only way I can describe it is that through out the day it's like I'm putting puzzle pieces together and as soon as the routine changes it's as if someone's knocked it over and I'm left scrambling to get it back together #BPDchat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @CarlDunnJr @mira113 Yes. Because not only does it hurt to be abandoned/rejected, but I know that I do not deserve it. I am angry about it often more than I am sad about it. #BPDChat |
 | Queen of Something @law_lori @CarlDunnJr I dont want to be this way. I don’t enjoy it. I’m not bad. #BPDCHAT |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @BPD_Mumof3: @ames302 @CarlDunnJr Yep. I can't cope with routine changes either. The only way I can describe it is that through out the day it's like I'm putting puzzle pieces together and as soon as the routine changes it's as if someone's knocked it over and I'm left scrambling to get it back together #BPDchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @BPD_Mumof3 @ames302 @CarlDunnJr Routine changes for me are a go to for irritability, frustration, and always result into anger. #bpdchat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @voicenotsilent I often repeat the Anger > Explode > Guilt > Shame cycle. It never seems to get better, because I end up becoming angry that it's happening *again*. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr The perceived unfairness of the rejection can heighten the anger. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @bpdbutbeautiful: @voicenotsilent I often repeat the Anger > Explode > Guilt > Shame cycle. It never seems to get better, because I end up becoming angry that it's happening *again*. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @BorderlineKylo @BPDlogic @bpdbutbeautiful I prefer borderline, for myself, I think emotionally unstable is way to negative. But I kind of have this picture of a graph in my head of a straight line (peaks and valleys) and ultimate stability on that line. That's how I in vision myself. #bpdchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: The perceived unfairness of the rejection can heighten the anger. #BPDChat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @Insane_Anna @sam_thomas86 @CarlDunnJr In case you're ever wondering, Kleenex boxes *do* leave indents in drywall. #BPDChat |
| Nena Kelly @nena_metro @CarlDunnJr That I’m NOT just lazy. I’m not controlling this, and I am trying, but this is for life. And having a job is honestly THAT hard, I can’t just go get one. I’m not lazy. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @bpdbutbeautiful @voicenotsilent I think this is an important point - that one emotion can lead to another and can keep "negative" emotions going for a long time. (And can become a repetitive cycle, as you're saying). #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @Insane_Anna @sam_thomas86 @CarlDunnJr This is me. I throw, break, and seek to destroy. It's also my mother in response to my anger. So anger in this household is very horrid. #bpdchat |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @incorrectfeels @CarlDunnJr That must make you feel really bad. I am sorry to hear that. I know for me I just bottle up emotions until I explode and when I explode it's not usually pretty. I am angry and upset and I take it out on everyone. It's ok though. we can grow together. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: @bpdbutbeautiful @voicenotsilent I think this is an important point - that one emotion can lead to another and can keep "negative" emotions going for a long time. (And can become a repetitive cycle, as you're saying). #BPDChat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @mira113 @CarlDunnJr I wonder about exactly how much my mind has done for the sake of protecting the rest of me. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @mira113: |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @nena_metro: @CarlDunnJr That I’m NOT just lazy. I’m not controlling this, and I am trying, but this is for life. And having a job is honestly THAT hard, I can’t just go get one. I’m not lazy. #BPDChat |
| J. 💋 @jooliooliannaaa @Glass1ncision @unicornpixxie @CarlDunnJr Definitely not the only one. I do the exact same thing when I’m full-on freaking out in a rage. TW - the hitting myself in the head usually happens as soon as I snap, way before I resort to a more intense form of self harm. #bpd #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Like any emotion, anger gives us valuable information. If you feel angry it may be that an important goal of yours has been blocked or an injustice has been done to you. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: Like any emotion, anger gives us valuable information. If you feel angry it may be that an important goal of yours has been blocked or an injustice has been done to you. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr When deciding how to respond when you're angry it's important to consider what is an effective response. Often lashing out or attacking the other person is counterproductive. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: When deciding how to respond when you're angry it's important to consider what is an effective response. Often lashing out or attacking the other person is counterproductive. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr If you're angry and anger won't be effective, it may be helpful to think of a constructive response, rather than lashing out or attacking the other person. #BPDChat |
| 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey @Insane_Anna @mira113 @bpdbutbeautiful @CarlDunnJr #BPDChat yea, nothing like hearing “I’ll give you something to cry about...if you don’t stop crying” wtf ?? |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @Insane_Anna @mira113 @CarlDunnJr I went through almost all my teen years being angry at so many people, especially my family. It wasn't until I moved across the country & got some peace that I began to process all the sadness hidden there. I was crying at 23 for my father's death 15 yrs before #BPDChat |
| THEE Holliejoyjoy 💙s Madam VP Kamala Harris💙 @HollieJoyJoy RT @CarlDunnJr: Like any emotion, anger gives us valuable information. If you feel angry it may be that an important goal of yours has been blocked or an injustice has been done to you. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Another issue is that anger can often cover up what your primary "orgiinal" "true" emotion was (so go straight to anger and never notice what your accurate emotion was). #BPDChat |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 @CarlDunnJr I have to walk away sometimes. It kills me to do so but honestly, sometimes it's needed. #BPDchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: Another issue is that anger can often cover up what your primary "orgiinal" "true" emotion was (so go straight to anger and never notice what your accurate emotion was). #BPDChat |
 | #DepressedWhileBlack @DepressedWBlack RT @CarlDunnJr: Like any emotion, anger gives us valuable information. If you feel angry it may be that an important goal of yours has been blocked or an injustice has been done to you. #BPDChat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @gacossey @Insane_Anna @mira113 @CarlDunnJr That. Was. The. Worst. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr That's so extremely difficult! #bpdchat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @BPD_Mumof3: @CarlDunnJr I have to walk away sometimes. It kills me to do so but honestly, sometimes it's needed. #BPDchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr If you go straight to anger and miss your primary (original) emotion, you miss the chance to communicate what your primary emotion was to the other person, and they misunderstand you. #BPDChat 1/ |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 @sam_thomas86 @CarlDunnJr Agree with this. Respond, don't react! Easier said than done, but is effective #BPDchat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @CarlDunnJr Honest question: Does "lashing out" provide a dopamine high or anything of the sort? Because it can sometimes feel that way, at least temporarily. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @BPD_Mumof3 @CarlDunnJr Walking away is the best way to diffuse the situation. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Example: If a friend stands you up (when you were supposed to go out), you may feel sad & disappointed. If you communicate your sadness (primary emotion) to your friend, they may want to make amends. #BPDChat 2/3 |
| J. 💋 @jooliooliannaaa This! 🙌🏻 I try SO so hard, every single day. I am COMPLETELY unable to work. It isn’t about being lazy. I receive financial assistance from the government cause working is not an option for me, believe me, I have tried. My doctor got me on disability for a reason. #bpd #BPDChat |
| Nena Kelly @nena_metro Thanks to everyone. I hope we all have a kind week, remember to love yourself and I love you too. 💕💖#BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @bpdbutbeautiful @CarlDunnJr I believe so. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr But if you never communicate your sadness (primary emotion) to your friend and instead you get angry and SCREAM at them, they may misunderstand & this might make things worse. #BPDChat 3/3 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @bpdbutbeautiful I'm guessing that's true. #BPDChat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @mira113 @Insane_Anna @CarlDunnJr So much yes. I spent 5 weeks over the holiday near my family (the longest I've been there since I moved away), and I had so many crises as time went on. Even being in the same state, an hour away from them, was stressful. #BPDChat |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @bpdbutbeautiful @Insane_Anna @mira113 @CarlDunnJr I had to be across to the other side of the world and on the breaking point to finally process a death almost 40 years earlier. My mother claimed I enjoyed the victim stance. -I didn't enjoy it-nobody helped me process all the trauma I endured- or how my brain handled it #bpdchat |
| BorderlineFighter @lunarruler @mira113 @bpdbutbeautiful @Insane_Anna @CarlDunnJr I seriously have to watch what family I'm seeing because they are triggers for me. Just being with them can make me angry and upset. It's things that's happened with them that make it that way. Toxic people have no place in your life. #BPDChat |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @gacossey @Insane_Anna @mira113 @bpdbutbeautiful @CarlDunnJr I remember that statement growing up. #BPDchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr It's helpful to figure out what your primary (original) emotion is behind the anger and then respond to or communicate that primary emotion. #BPDChat 1/2 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr ACCURATE EXPRESSION (accurately expressing your feelings & thoughts to other person) is healthy & can sometimes get a conversation or interaction back on track. (The other person can validate you or respond to you appropriately only if they know how you're feeling). #BPDChat 2/2 |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: ACCURATE EXPRESSION (accurately expressing your feelings & thoughts to other person) is healthy & can sometimes get a conversation or interaction back on track. (The other person can validate you or respond to you appropriately only if they know how you're feeling). #BPDChat 2/2 |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision RT @CarlDunnJr: It's helpful to figure out what your primary (original) emotion is behind the anger and then respond to or communicate that primary emotion. #BPDChat 1/2 |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful RT @CarlDunnJr: ACCURATE EXPRESSION (accurately expressing your feelings & thoughts to other person) is healthy & can sometimes get a conversation or interaction back on track. (The other person can validate you or respond to you appropriately only if they know how you're feeling). #BPDChat 2/2 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Anger can be problematic in relationships. Anger can be corrosive for relationships. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr When you're angry, don't forget you care about the person in the relationship even if you're mad at them now. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision Such a great chat. Time went by so quickly. Thank you all for being apart of tonight's chat. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr When angry, it's often smart to stop & think before you act. DBT has a 'STOP' skill. The STOP skill involves these steps: 1) Stop!, 2) Take a Step Back, 3) Observe the Situation, and 4) Proceed Mindfully (use your Wise Mind to decide what to do). #BPDChat https://t.co/lSshnorOE9 |
| 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey @GemmaLuescher @Insane_Anna @mira113 @bpdbutbeautiful @CarlDunnJr Alllll these years later yet it’s right there. Damn. #BPDChat |
| 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey RT @CarlDunnJr: ACCURATE EXPRESSION (accurately expressing your feelings & thoughts to other person) is healthy & can sometimes get a conversation or interaction back on track. (The other person can validate you or respond to you appropriately only if they know how you're feeling). #BPDChat 2/2 |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher I felt safe to express my rage and anger for the first time when I was in the isolation room of the clinic. Wow that was something else - also that pink colour made my anger that much more intense. Feeling like I was given permission to be angry was something else.#BPDchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr DBT has a skill called "Opposite Action" that can help diminish or change your emotion when your natural emotional response does not make sense or would not be effective. #BPDChat 1/3 |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @incorrectfeels @CarlDunnJr I typically uncover my true emotion very shamefully after I lash or rage out in anger and it's too late then. My anger is so horrid. #bpdchat |
| 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey RT @CarlDunnJr: Anger can be problematic in relationships. Anger can be corrosive for relationships. #BPDChat |
| BPD.MumOf3 @BPD_Mumof3 RT @CarlDunnJr: When angry, it's often smart to stop & think before you act. DBT has a 'STOP' skill. The STOP skill involves these steps: When angry, it's often smart to stop & think before you act. DBT has a 'STOP' skill. The STOP skill involves these steps: 1) Stop!, 2) Take a Step Back, 3) Observe the Situation, and 4) Proceed Mindfully (use your Wise Mind to decide what to do). #BPDChat https://t.co/lSshnorOE9 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr "Opposite Action" for anger would be to gently avoid the other person or even to be a little bit kind - in other words, be decent. #BPDChat 2/3 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Here's a good overview of using the skill of "Opposite Action" of anger (from the transcript of a Marsha Linehan video). #BPDChat 3/3 https://t.co/FDEF5NM6bB |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr In my situation, I can't avoid the person. #bpdchat |
 | Babadook Badonkadonk @MiekoGavia RT @CarlDunnJr: Like any emotion, anger gives us valuable information. If you feel angry it may be that an important goal of yours has been blocked or an injustice has been done to you. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Glass1ncision That makes it harder. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision @incorrectfeels @CarlDunnJr This is so relatable, I confuse the emotions also. And I must admit that sometimes I'm so numb that the only thing I can feel is anger and I go with that just to feel something. #bpdchat |
| Borderline Beauty @bpdbutbeautiful @GemmaLuescher My husband once drove me out to the middle of the forest 5min from our apt, gave me two rotted pumpkins (post-Halloween), and let me throw them at trees and then bash them in with a bunch of sticks while I screamed until my throat hurt. It was extremely helpful. #BPDChat |
 | Sparrow @UntoNuggan RT @CarlDunnJr: Like any emotion, anger gives us valuable information. If you feel angry it may be that an important goal of yours has been blocked or an injustice has been done to you. #BPDChat |
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