#bpdchat Transcript
Healthcare social media transcript of the #bpdchat hashtag.
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 | Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Hello and welcome to #BPDChat - if you feel affected by tonight's chat please contact your country's helpline at https://t.co/GtlNdoZpFo |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr If you're going to post something that may affect others please consider using TW (for Trigger warning) to give others a heads up. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Icebreaker: What's your favorite kind of music? - (2nd question)... Do you use music to take care of yourself? How? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Artful_Kimmie @dialecticallife Hi! That's really great to hear. I think it's a really helpful book. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @MissLexisaurus: |
 | jobu tupakΒ‘ @helovampirehoe @CarlDunnJr I think my favorite kind of music is alternative rock. I listen to most kinds of music though. To take care of myself I listen to instrumental songs (to calm down) and soundtracks from musicals (to feel more energetic). #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Hello, everyone. Who's here today? Our icebreaker asks the question: Is music important to you? (What kind do you like? Do you use it to take care of yourself?). #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @helovampirehoe: @CarlDunnJr I think my favorite kind of music is alternative rock. I listen to most kinds of music though. To take care of myself I listen to instrumental songs (to calm down) and soundtracks from musicals (to feel more energetic). #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @KellyannNavarre Hi! Thanks for sharing this. #BPDChat |
 | #PrEPa Pig π³οΈβπ @Phumlani_PrEP RT @CarlDunnJr: Icebreaker: Icebreaker: What's your favorite kind of music? - (2nd question)... Do you use music to take care of yourself? How? #BPDChat |
 | Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr Right now I have been listening to more Ukrainian /Lithuanian songs. I love the old tragic haunting folk songs. Thereβs just something that still feels like a lullaby( guess cause I grew up with the tragic Gaelic stuff )#bpdchat |
 | april70 @AFR365 RT @AFR365: Chats....if you know them please add. #spiritchat Sunday time? #DIDchat Tuesday ? #ptsdchat #bpdchat I know there are many. We can support each other |
| Gemma Luescher-Verseckas @GemmaLuescher @CarlDunnJr Music is key to keeping me calm helping with my anxiety levels ( together with chewing gum). #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Juliebynight That sounds really useful. When I get bored sometimes I go to Youtube and just explore.. Looking for songs or musical artists, etc. #BPDChat |
 | Meandmymhmatters BA (Hons) @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr I like a lot of different music from pop punk to old rock to country to indie to musicals. It helps with my anxiety. And to shut out the voice I hear. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Juliebynight I'm so sorry to hear this. How old was Rosey? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Meandmymhmatter: @CarlDunnJr I like a lot of different music from pop punk to old rock to country to indie to musicals. It helps with my anxiety. And to shut out the voice I hear. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr I guess it's time to go to tonight's main topic. Please be kind to yourself and use self-care if necessary - this might be a hard topic for many people. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Tonight's topic is... How do you cope with loss or disappointment? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Don't let anyone tell you how you feel. Feelings are neither good nor bad, they just are. #BPDChat |
 | BPD365 @bpd365 @CarlDunnJr Loss is so so hard. Whether itβs sudden or anticipated it feels like torture. #bpdchat |
 | KimberlyAnn @kimsdailylife @CarlDunnJr #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @ShoutyShyGirl: @CarlDunnJr Loss is so so hard. Whether itβs sudden or anticipated it feels like torture. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @ShoutyShyGirl Good point. Loss can be really painful. #BPDChat |
| BPD365 @bpd365 @CarlDunnJr When I lose someone I like David Kesslerβs books & videos. Heβs a grief expert who has had a lot of personal loss and trauma. #bpd #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr We all experience disappointment and loss in our lives. Would you say you've experienced a good deal of disappointment and/or loss? #BPDChat |
| Meandmymhmatters BA (Hons) @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr Badly! #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @ShoutyShyGirl Thanks for sharing this resource. What do you think is important to know from his work? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Meandmymhmatter I'm sorry to hear that. I'm guessing you're not alone in this... What seems to be the most difficult part? #BPDChat |
| KimberlyAnn @kimsdailylife @CarlDunnJr #BPDChat I recently found out my best friend Scott was suffering from diabetic polyneuropathy and as had as he tried to deal with it he lost his fight 3 months ago. His diabetes was left undiagnosed for 18 years before they deemed it too late. πͺ |
| jobu tupakΒ‘ @helovampirehoe @CarlDunnJr When it comes to disappointment I get so angry and petty... when I calm down I realize how childish my reactions were and start feeling horribly guilty. These situations make me feel like I have no right in feeling whatever it is Iβm feeling. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Luciek11K That's really interesting. Are you saying that dissociation keeps you from feeling the loss or is dissociation a protective response? (Or something else?) #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @helovampirehoe: @CarlDunnJr When it comes to disappointment I get so angry and petty... when I calm down I realize how childish my reactions were and start feeling horribly guilty. These situations make me feel like I have no right in feeling whatever it is Iβm feeling. #BPDChat |
| jobu tupakΒ‘ @helovampirehoe @CarlDunnJr Loss makes me hopeless, but I accept it quite easily once I think I deserved it or shouldβve seen it coming. Accepting it doesnβt mean Iβll forget about it though. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @sims_said Hi! Welcome to the chat. I'm sorry it's so painful. I'm glad you're here with us. #BPDChat |
 | Grace Durbin @Grace_Durbin RT @CarlDunnJr: Tonight's topic is... How do you cope with loss or disappointment? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @KindredGirl1210 I'm really sorry to hear this. I'm glad you're here on the chat with us. How are you deal with this? #BPDChat |
| jobu tupakΒ‘ @helovampirehoe @CarlDunnJr I think i maybe realized just now that, for me, itβs harder to cope with disappointment. Probably because it almost always envolves someone elseβs feelings too, and I my extreme and opposite reactions usually confuse and hurt them. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @wayne24536203 I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad you're here on the chat. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Juliebynight: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @helovampirehoe: @CarlDunnJr Loss makes me hopeless, but I accept it quite easily once I think I deserved it or shouldβve seen it coming. Accepting it doesnβt mean Iβll forget about it though. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @ShoutyShyGirl Ah, yes, that's true. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @helovampirehoe: @CarlDunnJr I think i maybe realized just now that, for me, itβs harder to cope with disappointment. Probably because it almost always envolves someone elseβs feelings too, and I my extreme and opposite reactions usually confuse and hurt them. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Luciek11K Ah. I guess sometimes often feelings are so much we don't know how to handle them? #BPDChat |
| BPD365 @bpd365 @Juliebynight @CarlDunnJr Aww, poor little pupper. No wonder she stayed at your heal voluntarily. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @KindredGirl1210 It's great you're taking care of yourself and your health. It makes sense that some days are hard. That's a great suggestion about writing down your feelings. I'm glad it helps you. I've heard other people suggest that writing (or drawing, too) about feelings is helpful. #BPDChat |
| Meandmymhmatters BA (Hons) @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr Just emotions become extreme #BPDChat |
| BPD365 @bpd365 @Juliebynight @CarlDunnJr I have an 11 year old Lab / Chesapeake Bay mix. He wants to eat the grossest things off the ground. Was Rosey an enthusiastic eater? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Disappointment and/or loss can hurt. What have you found most difficult to handle? Have you found ways to cope that you would suggest to others? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr We've all experienced disappointment: A friend is supposed to meet you for lunch & they cancel. You get turned down for a school or a job. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr A particularly painful type of loss that it's not easy to get over: Your pet (or a relative or friend) pass away. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr These are just some examples, We all have our own. For me, Hurricane Harvey flooded Houston a couple of years ago (we had 3 feet of water). We lost a lot of stuff. (But fortunately we survived, with our dogs). #BPDChat |
| BPD365 @bpd365 @CarlDunnJr @Luciek11K Definitely! I canβt handle the intensity #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Often it's helpful to notice your primary ("original" or "true") emotion. Sometimes it may be sadness. That can get covered over by secondary emotions such as anger, guilt, or shame. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Identifying the emotion you're having can give you valuable information - what is the emotion telling you? #BPDChat 2/2 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Identifying the emotion you're having can help bring down (moderate) that emotion. #BPDChat 1/2 |
| BPD365 @bpd365 @CarlDunnJr @KindredGirl1210 I find writing about my feelings and what I hoped for is helpful too #BPDChat |
| jobu tupakΒ‘ @helovampirehoe @CarlDunnJr the feeling of loneliness, in both cases, itβs whatβs most difficult for me to handle. #BPDChat |
| BPD365 @bpd365 @CarlDunnJr DBT Distress tolerance and David Kesslerβs exercises helped me out #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @KindredGirl1210 I have a friend with that Syndrome. It can be challenging. Your arts and crafts and "penpal" Twitter account sound interesting and a good way to bring meaning into your life. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @ShoutyShyGirl: @Juliebynight @CarlDunnJr I have an 11 year old Lab / Chesapeake Bay mix. He wants to eat the grossest things off the ground. Was Rosey an enthusiastic eater? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @bpdepresso Hi! Welcome to the chat. I'm sorry you've experienced so much disappointment and loss. Has anything helped? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @helovampirehoe Yes. I realize loneliness can be very difficult. I'm glad you're here with us and talking about this. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @KellyannNavarre I'm sorry for your loss. This sounds so hard. How have you been coping? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @barb_landry Hi! We haven't talked much about grief but important to discuss. What did you find in the group that was helpful? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Do you think this 5-step model is accurate? What's been your experience with the process of grief or grieving? #BPDChat 3/3 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Elisabeth Kubler-Ross suggested there are stages of grief: 1) Denial; 2) Anger; 3) Bargaining; 4) Depression; 5) Acceptance. #BPDChat 1/3 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr This suggests grieving is a process that takes time. We don't all go through all these stages, and we may experience some of them more than once. #BPDChat 2/3 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr I thought this was a good summary of some info about "Coping with Grief and Loss". #BPDChat https://t.co/efmM59FzsU |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Here's another (slightly more academic) article discussing issues related to Grief. #BPDChat https://t.co/XpYmftlYVx |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Here's info about Loss and Grief and the phenomenon of "inhibited grieving". #BPDChat https://t.co/VDhJ3Q9mba |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @borderline__gal Hi! That sounds really painful. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @michellelee1910 Hi! Welcome to the chat. It makes sense that might be hard to deal with... What's been your experience after being diagnosed? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @bpdepresso I'm glad it's not all-consuming now. You mentioned several things that sound helpful, including Radical Acceptance. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Marsha Linehan found 3 skills that were helpful in coping: Radical Acceptance, Turning the Mind, Willingness. (These are DBT skills). #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr If you are interested in learning about the skill of Radical Acceptance, here's an incredible resource - the transcript of a Marsha Linehan video about Radical Acceptance (and Turning the Mind and Willingness). #BPDChat https://t.co/DVvhABbnyo |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr I think accepting reality (Radical Acceptance) after a loss is a process, it takes time, sometimes a lot of time. #BPDChat |
| #PrEPa Pig π³οΈβπ @Phumlani_PrEP RT @CarlDunnJr: Marsha Linehan found 3 skills that were helpful in coping: Marsha Linehan found 3 skills that were helpful in coping: Radical Acceptance, Turning the Mind, Willingness. (These are DBT skills). #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @barb_landry I'm glad to hear all this. Mutual peer support is really helpful. #BPDChat |
 | Barb Landry πΎπ¨π¦π³οΈβππ«Άππ» @barb_landry RT @CarlDunnJr: @barb_landry I'm glad to hear all this. Mutual peer support is really helpful. #BPDChat |
 | bpdvideo @bpdvideo RT @CarlDunnJr: I thought this was a good summary of some info about "Coping with Grief and Loss". #BPDChat https://t.co/efmM59FzsU |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @_freedomandhope Hi! Welcome to the chat. This is a great summary of the process. You're right, it can be hard (and take time). #BPDChat |
 | Jonathan Singer ποΈ @socworkpodcast RT @CarlDunnJr: I think accepting reality (Radical Acceptance) after a loss is a process, it takes time, sometimes a lot of time. #BPDChat |
| Jonathan Singer ποΈ @socworkpodcast RT @CarlDunnJr: Marsha Linehan found 3 skills that were helpful in coping: Marsha Linehan found 3 skills that were helpful in coping: Radical Acceptance, Turning the Mind, Willingness. (These are DBT skills). #BPDChat |
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