#carechat Transcript
Healthcare social media transcript of the #carechat hashtag.
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 | Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Welcome to #CareChat I’m your host today and we are discussing feelings of inadequacy in our caregiving roles. It’s something that most of us have in common - most caregivers feel that way at some point in their journey, |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Please introduce yourselves! I’m Amy Goyer, your host today, and I’ve been a caregiver for grandparents, parents, sister and misc. other relatives and friends – 35 yrs. I’ve also worked in the field of aging all that time and I’m @AARP Family & #Caregiving Expert. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer To join the chat, search #carechat in Twitter & click on “latest posts” at the top left of your screen. I’ll post questions as Q1, Q2, Q3 etc. When you reply or quote a question, start with A1, A2, A3 etc. & add #carechat to each post to be included in the chat stream. |
 | Jinesh Jani @Jhjani09 Hi. This is Jinesh Jani #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer We request that you try to stick to the theme of today’s chat. Whether you join the whole chat or pop in for a few minutes or one question, everyone is welcome and we’d love to hear from you! And if you have questions feel free to ask! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @Jhjani09 Hi Jinesh! How is your day going?! #carechat |
 | Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: Please introduce yourselves! I’m Amy Goyer, your host today, and I’ve been a caregiver for grandparents, parents, sister and misc. other relatives and friends – 35 yrs. I’ve also worked in the field of aging all that time and I’m @AARP Family & #Caregiving Expert. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: To join the chat, search #carechat in Twitter & click on “latest posts” at the top left of your screen. I’ll post questions as Q1, Q2, Q3 etc. When you reply or quote a question, start with A1, A2, A3 etc. & add #carechat to each post to be included in the chat stream. |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: Welcome to #CareChat I’m your host today and we are discussing feelings of inadequacy in our caregiving roles. It’s something that most of us have in common - most caregivers feel that way at some point in their journey, |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: We request that you try to stick to the theme of today’s chat. Whether you join the whole chat or pop in for a few minutes or one question, everyone is welcome and we’d love to hear from you! And if you have questions feel free to ask! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @AmyGoyer Thanks for leading our discussion today, Amy!! #carechat |
 | Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer Hi Amy! I'm here! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @Jhjani09 So glad you could join us today, Jinesh. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @caregiving Hi Denise! Happy to be here! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer Yay! Hi Michelle - how's it going?! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving Hi Everyone! Grateful to be with all of you today. I help my parents, who live about 10 minutes from me. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @Jhjani09 Anything to share about your caregiving experience and interest?! #carechat |
 | Ginger 🏳️🌈 M.Ed, RDN @gingerbouvier1 Hello from New Orleans everyone. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @caregiving So glad you are here today! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @gingerbouvier1: Hello from New Orleans everyone. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @gingerbouvier1 Good to see you, Ginger! Thanks for joining us! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @gingerbouvier1 Hi Ginger - glad you've joined us! How is the weather in NOLA today?! #carechat |
 | Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @gingerbouvier1 Hi Ginger! Great to see you! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer Hi! Glad to be here! Things are going well...13 days until we move so things are moving along quickly! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake Hello everyone! I'm just pulling into #carechat I am the caregiver to Type1 #diabetic |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @MichelleSeitzer: @AmyGoyer Hi! Glad to be here! Things are going well...13 days until we move so things are moving along quickly! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer OK we'll get started with our questions for today. Whether you join the whole chat or pop in for a few minutes or one question, everyone is welcome and we’d love to hear from you! And if you have questions feel free to ask! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer I didn't realize you are moving!! Will you be in the same area? #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: Hello everyone! I'm just pulling into #carechat I am the caregiver to Type1 #diabetic |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A reminder that we wait until the end of #carechat to share announcements, resources and links (but feel free to share your appropriate photos or memes as we go along!) |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @llake Good to see you, Lillian! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Q1 Tell us about times you have felt inadequate in your family #caregiving role. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @caregiving It all happened very quickly, about a month ago. Yes, only about 20 minutes away! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake Hi Lil! So glad you are here today!!! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @caregiving Hi Denise! Good to see you as well! Tick tock! Just a few weeks to the conference! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @llake Sshhhhh. :) #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @MichelleSeitzer Sounds like this is a good move and you are excited about it. #carechat |
| Jinesh Jani @Jhjani09 A1 I think Caregiving keeps changing at various stages so you always feel inadequate and need for more. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer Hi Amy. Wasn't sure I'd be up to it, but here I am!! 😅💞 #carechat https://t.co/2rfwy2Jd6i |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: Q1 Tell us about times you have felt inadequate in your family #caregiving role. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A1 I've found that every time I get overwhelmed those feelings of inadequacy creep in. When things add up I get that feeling that I can't do it all - and that I SHOULD be able to do it all... #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @Jhjani09: A1 I think Caregiving keeps changing at various stages so you always feel inadequate and need for more. #carechat |
 | Amy Zipkin @amyzipkin @AmyGoyer A1. The night we were relying on a grocery delivery and the delivery truck broke down and I was 50 miles away. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer A1: When I'm burned out. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @caregiving I'll shout it out very quietly. 😅 #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake Yay you! And Julie Andrews has nothing on you!!! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @Jhjani09: A1 I think Caregiving keeps changing at various stages so you always feel inadequate and need for more. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @caregiving @MichelleSeitzer It is and I am! Yes! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer Awww, you're awesomeness! I needed that today! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @amyzipkin: A1. The night we were relying on a grocery delivery and the delivery truck broke down and I was 50 miles away. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving A1. My most intense moments of self-doubts have occurred when both parents have been in a medical crisis at the same time. It just feels like everything is falling apart and you can't put it back together. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @amyzipkin Amy that must have been SO frustrating! Did you pull yourself up by your bootstraps (as my grandmother used to say) and figure out something for a meal? #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake You are loved! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @caregiving: A1. My most intense moments of self-doubts have occurred when both parents have been in a medical crisis at the same time. It just feels like everything is falling apart and you can't put it back together. #carechat |
| Ginger 🏳️🌈 M.Ed, RDN @gingerbouvier1 A1 when I lack the necessary patience and get frustrated with my dad. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @amyzipkin @AmyGoyer What happened then? Oh how stressful! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @caregiving It's that out of control feeling - right? Like there isn't enough OF you to go around. Just remember it doesn't mean YOU are not enough! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer @Jhjani09 While I still have those feelings, they are less with my old age and lessons learned. No one can make me feel inadequate except me. And I don't see anyone else stepping up to help me do the caregiving. So it's really on them. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @gingerbouvier1: A1 when I lack the necessary patience and get frustrated with my dad. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake RT @AmyGoyer: A1 I've found that every time I get overwhelmed those feelings of inadequacy creep in. When things add up I get that feeling that I can't do it all - and that I SHOULD be able to do it all... #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @gingerbouvier1 That's such a tough thing Ginger. My Dad had Alzheimers and there were times I felt my patience wearing thing - mainly when I was tired. Of course we get worn out and can get frustrated. #carechat #caregiving |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @amyzipkin @AmyGoyer Oh, gosh! How frustrating! Caregivers are pros at making something out of nothing when it comes to food. I bet you hit a slam dunk. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @gingerbouvier1: A1 when I lack the necessary patience and get frustrated with my dad. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer I found that #caregiving took so much of my energies I was more likely to feel inadequate at work... #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: RT @amyzipkin: RT @amyzipkin: A1. The night we were relying on a grocery delivery and the delivery truck broke down and I was 50 miles away. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer I can feel it! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: @caregiving It's that out of control feeling - right? Like there isn't enough OF you to go around. Just remember it doesn't mean YOU are not enough! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @AmyGoyer @Jhjani09 While I still have those feelings, they are less with my old age and lessons learned. No one can make me feel inadequate except me. And I don't see anyone else stepping up to help me do the caregiving. So it's really on them. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @llake @AmyGoyer @Jhjani09 Love this, Lillian!! #carechat |
| Ginger 🏳️🌈 M.Ed, RDN @gingerbouvier1 @AmyGoyer My dad has Parkinson’s dementia, and I feel so guilty when I get frustrated with him. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer YES!!! https://t.co/YJtLoy7JTN |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @gingerbouvier1 Oh, gosh, I get that. Our days require so much patience -- it makes sense we run out. But then we feel soooo guilty. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake @Jhjani09 Well said!!! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @caregiving @AmyGoyer @Jhjani09 It surely wasn't an easy lesson to learn. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: I found that #caregiving took so much of my energies I was more likely to feel inadequate at work... #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @amyzipkin @AmyGoyer Oh, gosh! How frustrating! Caregivers are pros at making something out of nothing when it comes to food. I bet you hit a slam dunk. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: @gingerbouvier1 That's such a tough thing Ginger. My Dad had Alzheimers and there were times I felt my patience wearing thing - mainly when I was tired. Of course we get worn out and can get frustrated. #carechat #caregiving |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A1 The day a pipe burst in my parents' bedroom, we had a photographer spending the week with us, 2 doc appts that day. Had to move Mom & Dad's bedroom furniture into the dining room. I thought my head would explode! Felt inadequate, but got it done. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A1 When I had to give our precious dog Mr. Jackson (Dad's service dog) pills. I just couldn't be tough enough to do it. I never mastered it and it made me feel so inadequate - I knew I could do so much but not that. Sister had to do it! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @MichelleSeitzer Getting burned out is the pits. Our minds take over and we think all kinds of bad things. Know this, my dear friend. YOU are an amazing human! You are adequate even when you feel burned out. You got this! #carechat https://t.co/S0csp5rgYo |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @AmyGoyer: I found that #caregiving took so much of my energies I was more likely to feel inadequate at work... #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A1 The day a pipe burst in my parents' bedroom, we had a photographer spending the week with us, 2 doc appts that day. Had to move Mom & Dad's bedroom furniture into the dining room. I thought my head would explode! Felt inadequate, but got it done. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer Same here! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A1 When I had to give our precious dog Mr. Jackson (Dad's service dog) pills. I just couldn't be tough enough to do it. I never mastered it and it made me feel so inadequate - I knew I could do so much but not that. Sister had to do it! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @MichelleSeitzer Getting burned out is the pits. Our minds take over and we think all kinds of bad things. Know this, my dear friend. YOU are an amazing human! You are adequate even when you feel burned out. You got this! #carechat https://t.co/S0csp5rgYo |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer @Jhjani09 #carechat https://t.co/jCuyNlbhPp |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A1 Basically every time my Mom fell I felt inadequate. Why couldn't I prevent that fall? So many repercussions. Felt like a failure. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @Jhjani09 @AmyGoyer Just about 20 minutes away from where we currently live. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A1 Basically every time my Mom fell I felt inadequate. Why couldn't I prevent that fall? So many repercussions. Felt like a failure. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @gingerbouvier1 I can understand that. Does it help to be aware that caregiving for someone with any form of dementia is caregiving on steroids?! It really is so challenging, there is no perfect caregiver - truly. We all lose it now and then! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @llake Aww, thank you! I've been learning how to prevent burnout much better lately, but I'd say those are the times I feel most inadequate. And then I know it's time for a break! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @llake: Getting burned out is the pits. Our minds take over and we think all kinds of bad things. Know this, my dear friend. YOU are an amazing human! You are adequate even when you feel burned out. You got this! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer A1 When I took care of Betty I let her use the walker by herself against my better judgment. She fell & I needed help to get her up. You know what? I felt horrible at the time. A failure. I sobbed buckets. Yet, those who came to help got to see reality. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Q2 What other feelings come along with feelings of inadequacy? #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @MichelleSeitzer: Aww, thank you! I've been learning how to prevent burnout much better lately, but I'd say those are the times I feel most inadequate. And then I know it's time for a break! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer Awww, that's so hard. But think. Your sister got to share in that role. That's a good thing. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @AmyGoyer A1 When I took care of Betty I let her use the walker by herself against my better judgment. She fell & I needed help to get her up. You know what? I felt horrible at the time. A failure. I sobbed buckets. Yet, those who came to help got to see reality. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @llake: @AmyGoyer @Jhjani09 While I still have those feelings, they are less with my old age and lessons learned. No one can make me feel inadequate except me. And I don't see anyone else stepping up to help me do the caregiving. So it's really on them. #carechat |
| Jinesh Jani @Jhjani09 Impatient, frustrated, angry...#carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: @gingerbouvier1 I can understand that. Does it help to be aware that caregiving for someone with any form of dementia is caregiving on steroids?! It really is so challenging, there is no perfect caregiver - truly. We all lose it now and then! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake RT @AmyGoyer: I found that #caregiving took so much of my energies I was more likely to feel inadequate at work... #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake Hindsight is always 20/20 - and thank goodness for hindsight! That's how we learn. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @Jhjani09: Impatient, frustrated, angry...#carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer A2: Feelings of failure, grief, depression, anger... #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake Yes and it made her feel VERY competent! #carechat |
| Ginger 🏳️🌈 M.Ed, RDN @gingerbouvier1 RT @AmyGoyer: @gingerbouvier1 I can understand that. Does it help to be aware that caregiving for someone with any form of dementia is caregiving on steroids?! It really is so challenging, there is no perfect caregiver - truly. We all lose it now and then! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving A2. For me, when I wonder if I'm up to the task, I'm filled with self-doubt, second-guessing and judgment. It's a really lonely place to be. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Yep - #inadequacy #caregiving https://t.co/JZa1DP3YWg |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @caregiving: A2. For me, when I wonder if I'm up to the task, I'm filled with self-doubt, second-guessing and judgment. It's a really lonely place to be. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer We need to change that! That's on the workplace. They need to understand caregiving is huge and necessary & support you in not feeling inadequate. As caregivers we have to unite and rally that message. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @llake: @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer We need to change that! That's on the workplace. They need to understand caregiving is huge and necessary & support you in not feeling inadequate. As caregivers we have to unite and rally that message. #carechat |
| Ginger 🏳️🌈 M.Ed, RDN @gingerbouvier1 Q2 guilt, defeat, failure #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @gingerbouvier1 Defeat is a big one! Yes! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A2 Feelings of inadequacy stir up and magnify all those other self-doubt feelings, failure, being "less than"... #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer So see?! You weren't inadequate! You scored in helping another human to feel inadequate. God used you in a miraculous way. Winning! #carechat https://t.co/11yEdECRNK |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A2 For me feeling inadequate is more about failure than frustration. I go to that dark place as you say @llake - not good enough, less than, failure - so much negative self-talk :( #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer Isn't that the truth! These lessons can sometimes suck at the moment. And then you have that V-8 moment. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @gingerbouvier1: Q2 guilt, defeat, failure #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake RT @AmyGoyer: A2 For me feeling inadequate is more about failure than frustration. I go to that dark place as you say @llake - not good enough, less than, failure - so much negative self-talk :( #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @AmyGoyer: A2 Feelings of inadequacy stir up and magnify all those other self-doubt feelings, failure, being "less than"... #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer We need to change that! That's on the workplace. They need to understand caregiving is huge and necessary & support you in not feeling inadequate. As caregivers we have to unite and rally that message. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer So true! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @MichelleSeitzer: @gingerbouvier1 Defeat is a big one! Yes! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A2 Feelings of inadequacy stir up and magnify all those other self-doubt feelings, failure, being "less than"... #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A2 For me feeling inadequate is more about failure than frustration. I go to that dark place as you say @llake - not good enough, less than, failure - so much negative self-talk :( #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer Grief! Such a good point - things are getting worse, loved ones are fading (in a sense) and grief is wrapped up in so many feelings. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Q3 What role do you think those you are caring for play when you feel inadequate caring for them? #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer You know, lately Mark says "I feel guilty having you do so much." And I say "That's all on you. You don't hear me complaining, do you? We got this." It's correcting, redirecting, and supporting all at the same time. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake @MichelleSeitzer We do! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer A3: My daughter is very sensitive to my moods/mental health status. She knows when I'm burned out and it puts her on edge. Hard! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @AmyGoyer You know, lately Mark says "I feel guilty having you do so much." And I say "That's all on you. You don't hear me complaining, do you? We got this." It's correcting, redirecting, and supporting all at the same time. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: Q3 What role do you think those you are caring for play when you feel inadequate caring for them? #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Now THERE is some good coping mechanism kicking in! Yay you Amy! #carechat https://t.co/TNRGP375XY |
 | Kameka Dempsey @KDLSsays A1. When I worked for a corporation, I always felt guilty about going to work and having a paid caregiver with my Mom daily. #caregiving #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @Jhjani09 Those are all very natural feelings. And all of them reflect unmet personal needs. We're here for you! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @llake: @AmyGoyer You know, lately Mark says "I feel guilty having you do so much." And I say "That's all on you. You don't hear me complaining, do you? We got this." It's correcting, redirecting, and supporting all at the same time. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @MichelleSeitzer: A3: My daughter is very sensitive to my moods/mental health status. She knows when I'm burned out and it puts her on edge. Hard! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @KDLSsays: A1. When I worked for a corporation, I always felt guilty about going to work and having a paid caregiver with my Mom daily. #caregiving #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer And I bet that makes her behavior more difficult which fuels the vicious circle! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @MichelleSeitzer Yikes! She's like a personal barometer. I think in a sense that offers you an opportunity/permission to see to your own needs.#carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving @KDLSsays The guilt of not being able to be in two places at the same time is awful!! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer You got it!!!! And that's why I burn out! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @KDLSsays: A1. When I worked for a corporation, I always felt guilty about going to work and having a paid caregiver with my Mom daily. #caregiving #carechat https://t.co/glQzseqKTt |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @Jhjani09 Those are all very natural feelings. And all of them reflect unmet personal needs. We're here for you! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @caregiving @gingerbouvier1 Yessss! Not having patience enough makes me feel so horrible. Like I have to apologize and yet, it's usually other people who have done their best to push me to the edge. I hate it, though. I ask the universe for help on this constantly. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @llake Yes she is! It does, but it's also so hard to be authentic because my sadness/depression triggers her, which, like @AmyGoyer said, fuels the vicious cycle. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @KDLSsays Feelings of guilt and inadequacy are so very intertwined! I always wish I could clone myself :) Even though our minds know we can't do everything, our hearts want to. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: @KDLSsays Feelings of guilt and inadequacy are so very intertwined! I always wish I could clone myself :) Even though our minds know we can't do everything, our hearts want to. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @MichelleSeitzer: @llake Yes she is! It does, but it's also so hard to be authentic because my sadness/depression triggers her, which, like @AmyGoyer said, fuels the vicious cycle. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Q4 How do you get past the feelings of inadequacy when in a #caregiving role? #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @caregiving @gingerbouvier1 Yessss! Not having patience enough makes me feel so horrible. Like I have to apologize and yet, it's usually other people who have done their best to push me to the edge. I hate it, though. I ask the universe for help on this constantly. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @MichelleSeitzer: A3: A3: My daughter is very sensitive to my moods/mental health status. She knows when I'm burned out and it puts her on edge. Hard! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: Q4 How do you get past the feelings of inadequacy when in a #caregiving role? #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @gingerbouvier1 @AmyGoyer Ginger, I am amazed at anyone who can take care of someone with dementia. It affects you to the core. I got a small taste when Mark had memory issues. I'm very proud to know you. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer @llake Thus the red flag of burnout. The good thing is that you're getting so experienced in recognizing it and taking steps to alleviate the burnout. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer Yes! I agree. And on some level, N is learning too. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer @llake Exactly. Yes, it's been a steep learning curve, but I'm finally getting a sense of how to stay ahead of it! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @llake @AmyGoyer True! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A3 Sometimes people we care for just so prefer us (their loved ones, family caregivers) to do it all - they feel more comfortable so they inadvertently make us feel more inadequate - since it's impossible to do it ALL! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A3 Sometimes people we care for just so prefer us (their loved ones, family caregivers) to do it all - they feel more comfortable so they inadvertently make us feel more inadequate - since it's impossible to do it ALL! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A3 I've talked with many caregivers who care for family members or friends who are not nice to them. They are scolded and berated and nothing is every good enough, and no appreciation is shown. That SO magnifies feelings of inadequacy :( #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer @llake You ROCK!!! Truly. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake @MichelleSeitzer SUCH a good point Lil! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer @llake Aww. I have a great village surrounding me! You are part of it!!! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A4 For me, getting past feelings of inadequacy is just about continuing to do my best. Which is good, as I feel more confident that way; AND sometimes can get out of hand as I just work harder and harder - which can lead to burnout faster. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A4 For me, getting past feelings of inadequacy is just about continuing to do my best. Which is good, as I feel more confident that way; AND sometimes can get out of hand as I just work harder and harder - which can lead to burnout faster. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer @llake What would we do without cheering on from our compadres?! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A4 One thing that helps me past inadequacy is realizing that ALL caregivers feel that way at times. It's nice to know I have company! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake RT @AmyGoyer: A4 For me, getting past feelings of inadequacy is just about continuing to do my best. Which is good, as I feel more confident that way; AND sometimes can get out of hand as I just work harder and harder - which can lead to burnout faster. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer @llake Truth! We need cheerleaders who get it!! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A4 One thing that helps me past inadequacy is realizing that ALL caregivers feel that way at times. It's nice to know I have company! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A4 Recently I felt inadequate b/c my sister has been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease & wanted me to go to appt w/her but I was out of town. So I helped her write 15 questions for the doc, & had her call me in the appt so I listened & took notes. #carechat |
| Ginger 🏳️🌈 M.Ed, RDN @gingerbouvier1 A4 Remind myself that I’m doing the best I can, and also remind myself that I don’t always feel (inadequate) this way. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer Yes! It's so hard. Words hurt and they stay. Empowering caregivers is one way to help combat that negativism. After the person passes, they will regret they were so harsh. I used to remind Betty of that when she pushed too far. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Just sharing this again in case you missed it! #carechat https://t.co/E8DR01hT1g |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A4 Recently I felt inadequate b/c my sister has been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease & wanted me to go to appt w/her but I was out of town. So I helped her write 15 questions for the doc, & had her call me in the appt so I listened & took notes. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @gingerbouvier1: A4 Remind myself that I’m doing the best I can, and also remind myself that I don’t always feel (inadequate) this way. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @AmyGoyer Yes! It's so hard. Words hurt and they stay. Empowering caregivers is one way to help combat that negativism. After the person passes, they will regret they were so harsh. I used to remind Betty of that when she pushed too far. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer Do I need to get out my megaphone!? LOL! 😅📣 #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Yes! Words Matter!!! https://t.co/Bo7Bimmepx |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @gingerbouvier1: A4 Remind myself that I’m doing the best I can, and also remind myself that I don’t always feel (inadequate) this way. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @gingerbouvier1 Yes! So important! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer I honestly think we would all die much younger. I'm serious. Sharing the load really helps our health. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A4 My sister used to tell me over & over: "You are enough. Period." There is no way we can be perfect at everything. And we cannot do it all - it’s just not humanly possible. But I truly and firmly believe that we are all beautiful souls and we are doing our best. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @llake @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer Haha! LOL! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A4 To get past feeling inadequate I make a list of all the things that I do, all that I have gotten done and all that I have accomplished. That helps me with perspective. I'm not a total failure after all! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer RT @gingerbouvier1: A4 Remind myself that I’m doing the best I can, and also remind myself that I don’t always feel (inadequate) this way. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @AmyGoyer: A4 To get past feeling inadequate I make a list of all the things that I do, all that I have gotten done and all that I have accomplished. That helps me with perspective. I'm not a total failure after all! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Oooohhh such a good point! Remembering that we don't always feel that way! https://t.co/7t8iwe7MP7 |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer Do you know when we laugh our heart relaxes? Isn't that a grand benefit?! ❤️👏🌟 #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @llake: @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer Do you know when we laugh our heart relaxes? Isn't that a grand benefit?! ❤️👏🌟 #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A4 To get past feeling inadequate I make a list of all the things that I do, all that I have gotten done and all that I have accomplished. That helps me with perspective. I'm not a total failure after all! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake @MichelleSeitzer Absolutely!!! #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving RT @AmyGoyer: A4 My sister used to tell me over & over: A4 My sister used to tell me over & over: "You are enough. Period." There is no way we can be perfect at everything. And we cannot do it all - it’s just not humanly possible. But I truly and firmly believe that we are all beautiful souls and we are doing our best. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake Winning point today in #carechat! Game changer! |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer OMG! No I didn't know that! I love it!!! https://t.co/foaDZijjc6 |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @llake Perspective! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer That's right, you aren't. In fact, no part of you is a failure, my friend. You're a solid gold winner! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @llake: @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer Do you know when we laugh our heart relaxes? Isn't that a grand benefit?! ❤️👏🌟 #carechat |
 | Vanessa R. Williams @williamsvanessa A3: I learned, “Don’t take anything personally”. I also learned there were others who instigated the behavior from the comfort of their homes. I HAD to find my voice; remember I wasn’t a kid, WAS present; didn’t deserve mistreatment in word or deed. Things changed. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake RT @AmyGoyer: A4 My sister used to tell me over & over: A4 My sister used to tell me over & over: "You are enough. Period." There is no way we can be perfect at everything. And we cannot do it all - it’s just not humanly possible. But I truly and firmly believe that we are all beautiful souls and we are doing our best. #carechat |
| Caregiving.com @caregiving I've got to sneak out for a meeting that starts in 5 minutes. Thanks so much to all of you for being here! Special shout-out to @AmyGoyer for leading today's great discussion. Wishing everyone a good rest of today. #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer @caregiving Caregivers are earth angels. #carechat https://t.co/SZ69ldtQ3D |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A4 My parents they were so good at sensing when I felt inadequate. They'd give me lots of love, affection & reinforcement and tell me I'm doing just fine. I have a tendency to take everything on as my responsibility; hey'd remind me I'm doing great. I was so lucky. 😍#carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @caregiving @AmyGoyer Great to see you! Remember - tick, tock. ❤️ #ncc20 will be epic! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Q5 Tell us about times you felt very competent in your #caregiving role. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Q6 What are your tips for other family caregivers who feel overwhelmed and inadequate? #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake RT @williamsvanessa: A3: A3: I learned, “Don’t take anything personally”. I also learned there were others who instigated the behavior from the comfort of their homes. I HAD to find my voice; remember I wasn’t a kid, WAS present; didn’t deserve mistreatment in word or deed. Things changed. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer We have a couple of minutes left in #Carechat today please share any announcements, resources, or links that can help caregivers deal with occasional feelings of inadequacy #CareChat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake RT @AmyGoyer: We have a couple of minutes left in #Carechat today please share any announcements, resources, or links that can help caregivers deal with occasional feelings of inadequacy #CareChat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer That's a great one! I do that too! I call it a "ta da" list instead of a "to do" list. :) #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer A5 Does pulling Mark out of the pool count when he had a low sugar? That's definitely up there. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer This is a good article to help with #caregiver feelings of inadequacy! https://t.co/kxNfczRyOC #carechat |
| Vanessa R. Williams @williamsvanessa A1: Patience is necessary, so is love and compassion. You are a human being. It’s not easy. You’re there, and not because you have to be. Be kind to yourself, too. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer A5: When we finally got the diagnosis for N!!! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @AmyGoyer: This is a good article to help with #caregiver feelings of inadequacy! https://t.co/kxNfczRyOC #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake RT @AmyGoyer: A4 My parents they were so good at sensing when I felt inadequate. They'd give me lots of love, affection & reinforcement and tell me I'm doing just fine. I have a tendency to take everything on as my responsibility; hey'd remind me I'm doing great. I was so lucky. 😍#carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @caregiving Thank you Denise! See you before you know it! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @llake @AmyGoyer YES!!!!!!!!! #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @AmyGoyer They raised a fine daughter. ❤️❤️ #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Wrapping up #Carechat for today – thank you all for sharing your stories, tips, thoughts and resources! Have a great day – go forth and know that you ARE enough! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer A6: GET HELP! Reach out for encouragement and support. Don't wait for it to come to you. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer Yikes! The last 15 mins went so fast I didn't get the last 2 questions posted on time! Sorry! (feelings of inadequacy LOL!) #carechat |
| Lillian Lake - Host of #SoulNestingChat @llake @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer Ok, then that's my moment. Although, I'm still in recovery from the trauma. It was a defining moment. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @williamsvanessa Well said Vanessa!!! #carechat |
| Vanessa R. Williams @williamsvanessa A4: As you would at your place of employment— document, document, document! Did I say document? Journal! Use that smart phone! Memos, photos, notes! #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A6 Express those feelings of inadequacy to someone you trust. Gotta let it out and acknowledge the feelings and then be able to get support, perspective and let them go. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @MichelleSeitzer Oh yes - you totally MADE that happen with your diligence and perseverance and advocacy! Remember that feeling and always go back to remembering how that felt whenever you feel burned out and inadequate. Re-FEEL that feeling! #carechat |
| Vanessa R. Williams @williamsvanessa I remember my Dad suggesting we watch something funny on TV at the end of each day. He passed last year, but I still do it. #laughterismedicine #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer A6 Think about a time you felt very adequate - very competent and successful as a caregiver, and then close your eyes and FEEL that feeling. That is the goal - that FEELING. Think about and imagine you FEEL that feeling of competence. #carechat |
| Amy Goyer @AmyGoyer @williamsvanessa Yay! I love Evernote for that! #carechat |
| Vanessa R. Williams @williamsvanessa The best thing was finding others who understood. It was a healing and refreshing game changer. #carechat |
| Vanessa R. Williams @williamsvanessa RT @AmyGoyer: This is a good article to help with #caregiver feelings of inadequacy! https://t.co/kxNfczRyOC #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer Thanks for leading today, @amygoyer! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer RT @williamsvanessa: The best thing was finding others who understood. It was a healing and refreshing game changer. #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @llake Yes! You definitely need to define that moment as traumatic and recover accordingly! #carechat |
| Michelle Seitzer @MichelleSeitzer @AmyGoyer LOL! #carechat |
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