#bpdchat Transcript
Healthcare social media transcript of the #bpdchat hashtag.
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 | Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr "A Family Guide to BPD" videos give people w/ BPD & their families a chance to speak about their experiences & to share hope. @bpdvideo #BPDChat #SPSM https://t.co/3zliK0hTqR |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Before #BPDChat : I want to credit Shari Manning with much of what I'll mention on today's chat about "Observing Limits" (her book "Loving Someone with BPD" is kind & wise - I think maybe people with BPD would find a lot that is useful. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Oops! I'm starting just a little late. Here we go.... #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Hello and welcome to #BPDChat - if you feel affected by tonight's chat please contact your country's helpline at https://t.co/GtlNdoZpFo |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr If you're going to post something that may affect others please consider using TW (for Trigger warning) to give others a heads up. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Icebreaker: What do you get out of #BPDChat (if anything) each week? What would help you during the week after each #BPDChat to consolidate, practice, and internalize what you learned? (if anything...) #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @CROWRDREAM: @CarlDunnJr [REDACTED USER] Oh this is a great idea! Count me in. After having been activated/trigger it helps to find thing… |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @CROWRDREAM [REDACTED USER] Hi. Hope you'll be here for the chat on this subject (starting now), or can see the tweets later. #BPDChat |
 | ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision A sense of community. I try to internalize the things I do take out of chat and I think there is something every chat that grabs me. But the community is absolutely why I come to each chat. #Bpdchat |
 | Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr [REDACTED USER] Yeah! And thanks for the #TW #BPDChat |
 | bpdvideo @bpdvideo RT @CarlDunnJr: "A Family Guide to BPD" videos give people w/ BPD & their families a chance to speak about their experiences & to share hop… |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr A: Honestly I have to be thankful for the community. Dealing w/ ups and down can feel very issolating. Even more with #BPD so finding these chats during the week has been helpful. If there was a med for #PBD I wish it would feel like this. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @CROWRDREAM: @CarlDunnJr A: Honestly I have to be thankful for the community. Dealing w/ ups and down can feel very issolating. Even mor… |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @CROWRDREAM Hi! Welcome to the chat. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Borderline_OK Hi! It's been great having you as a regular on the chat, whether you chat or would rather follow along. #BPDChat |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision I've always had a difficult time setting boundaries and saying no, it's both a part of BPD and a larger part of being a recovering addict. However, I'm starting to say no and I'm feeling good about the changes I'm making, though it's difficult to stand my ground after. #bpdchat |
 | Meandmymhmatters BA (Hons) @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr Hey. It helps to know I'm not the only one who experiences what I do. It would be useful if there was a blog or something to refer back to but know that is a lot of work #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Meandmymhmatter: @CarlDunnJr Hey. It helps to know I'm not the only one who experiences what I do. It would be useful if there was a bl… |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision I can go weeks standing my ground and saying no and then it feels like seemingly I forget why I said no in the first place. Go back. Get hurt. It's a cycle of forgetting then coming to remember in a way I get hurt. But I hope one day I'll be able to say no. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @livingeupd Hi! Welcome. Thanks for sharing that. #BPDChat |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @Borderline_OK @CarlDunnJr Its just shocking to see how #BPD is such a stigmatized condition in the mental health & disabilities community! The lack of education and outreach around this is something I want/need to change. #BPDChat #MayMentalHealthMonth |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @mira113 This is a fascinating idea. I'll think about this. Let me know (anyone else can chime in, too, of course) about what type of task would be helpful. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Glass1ncision: I've always had a difficult time setting boundaries and saying no, it's both a part of BPD and a larger part of being a… |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Meandmymhmatter Hi! Thanks that's a great suggestion. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr [REDACTED USER] @Borderline_OK I hear you. This makes a lot of sense. I'm glad you're here. #BPDChat |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @Glass1ncision @CarlDunnJr For many folks w/ #PBD bc we are coming from a place of trauma and it can be very hard at times to tell the difference between politeness & friendliness. I want so bad to be an extrovert but I am a survivalist introvert bc of this. #BPDChat |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo #bpdchat @caarldunnjr Estimates for the percentage of the US population that has BPD, or had it at one time in their life, run from 2% to 6%or or between 7 & 21 million. That's a lot of people power. Outlets like #BPDchat can accomplish a great deal of good. |
| ♡ Amanda ♡ @Glass1ncision Saying no is easy. Putting forth the effort behind continuing to say no is the difficult part. #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @mira113 I'll try to do this this week. Also, anyone else on the chat can post their suggestions for what people might do to #BPDChat, too. |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo Supporting one another is one very powerful aspect. Educating ourselves and others is another. We should all feel good about participating in this amazing community and helping to shine light on this long misuderstood and stigmatized condition #bpdchat @CarlDunnJr |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr [REDACTED USER] Hi! I'm glad you're here. It's good to here it's helpful. I do realize this can feel overwhelming at times for people. I hope everyone remembers to take care of themselves during & after chat. #BPDChat |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr @mira113 I have added the #BPDChat to my daily survival/coping tools. I have been primarily been looking at them after I have had an episode/activation. But adding some daily coping tools/comments seems practical. I can imagine we all have similar & different ones. |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr [REDACTED USER] @Borderline_OK Sometimes stepping back for a little while makes sense. Remember to take care of yourself first. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @bpdvideo: Supporting one another is one very powerful aspect. Educating ourselves and others is another. We should all feel good about… |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr [REDACTED USER] @Borderline_OK This can be cary bc it feels like I am running away, quitting, or giving up. Its good how your wording challenges my perceived ideas to something that feels safer to me. Step back as a form of self care. #BPDChat |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr @CarlDunnJr - is #BPDchat still archived in Wakely? If so, its a valuable and supportive resource |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr I behind in the chat and would like to reply and reply more to what's already been said, but now it's time for the main topic. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Tonight's topic is.... Taking Care of Yourself by Saying No: Observing & Communicating Your Limits (& Allowing Others to Observe Theirs) #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr We all have personal limits which we don't want other people to cross. It's up to us to recognize & communicate our limits. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Have you had the experience of other people asking for you to do too much? Do you know what to do? (If so, what?). Do you find these situations challenging? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @mira113 @CROWRDREAM Yes! This is very smart. I agree it's much easier to practice & learn things when you're not emotionally escalated or in a difficult situation. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr [REDACTED USER] Hi! I'm glad it feels that way. #BPDChat |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr Oh yes, saying & owning my "no". As a person who gravitates to a caretaker role its been hard practicing self care by saying no. I learned about the DEAR MAN and had mixed results but it made me reevaluate my process. #DBT #BPDChat |
 | BPD BORI 🇵🇷🌊 she/her/ella @enlaorilla_ RT @bpdvideo: #bpdchat @caarldunnjr Estimates for the percentage of the US population that has BPD, or had it at one time in their life, ru… |
 | FindHelp FindHope @FindHelpHope RT @CarlDunnJr: Tonight's topic is.... Taking Care of Yourself by Saying No: Observing & Communicating Your Limits (& Allowing Others to O… |
| Meandmymhmatters BA (Hons) @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr I feel I have to say yes to people or I will lose them. Also my family dynamic makes it hard to say no to certain people for fear of the repercussions. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Does a friend call you too much? Is someone else demanding you do something that you don't feel you should do? Do you have problems when that happens? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Meandmymhmatter: @CarlDunnJr I feel I have to say yes to people or I will lose them. Also my family dynamic makes it hard to say no to… |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr but then there could be resentment and rumination UGH why didnt I say no! #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Limits are somewhat like boundaries, but they're more flexible, you can adjust them if circumstances warrant. #BPDChat |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr Oh yes. Sometimes the smallest request seemed so demanding. I would avoid them or totally isolate bc I did not feel I could tackle things. #BPDChat |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM [REDACTED USER] the last thing I want people to think of me is that I am selfish! #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Limits seem to be an internal thing (to yourself). When someone asks you to do something & it's "too much" you probably experience an internal sense of your limits being crossed. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Observing your limit(s) is noticing when what you've been asked to do is "too much" and then identifying this as a "limit". Example: "I don't want to drive across town to give Jake a ride to the store." #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr So the first part of saying 'No' is noticing or identifying or observing what your limit is. #BPDChat |
| Meandmymhmatters BA (Hons) @Meandmymhmatter @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr Oh there definitely is, I don't deny it. But I also find the fear overwhelming. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Observing your limit has to do with your awareness: You might notice your feelings, thoughts, physical sensations, etc. when someone asks you for something - what do they tell you? #BPDChat |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr I had not thought about looking at limits & boundaries as distinct concepts. That definitely helps to make adjustments. #BPDChat |
 | Blaise Aguirre, MD @blaisemd Thanks! Please join me tonight! https://t.co/2YhmD6txaQ |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr [REDACTED USER] It's interesting you noticed that. Part of this interaction with others is also noticing their limits (what they don't want to do, for instance) and then considering whether you're asking too much - if the other person's limit is reasonable, what else could you do? #BPDChat |
| FindHelp FindHope @FindHelpHope RT @CarlDunnJr: Before #BPDChat : A favorite book: 'Mindfulness for BPD' by Blaise Aguirre @blaisemd & Gillian Galen @gillianpsyd https://t… |
 | n i a / h e p h @NiA6035 @CarlDunnJr I find it particularly challenging with just my mother. She's a big trigger for me. I've had to put space between us and even move clear across town so she would understand the space I needed. It used to be if I couldn't do everything to help her I was useless. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @CROWRDREAM Yes, someone who taught about limits once told me boundaries are usually inflexible fences (walls?) while limits are more like those electronic dog fences - they can be changed depending on the situation. #BPDChat |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM RT @CarlDunnJr: @CROWRDREAM Yes, someone who taught about limits once told me boundaries are usually inflexible fences (walls?) while limit… |
| n i a / h e p h @NiA6035 @CarlDunnJr An ex boyfriend told me I was too much. Pretty sure I was verbally abused by him (he is bipolar) but he would get mad and say I was too much for him, I brought him down, held him back, etc. I struggle with those scars in my current relationship. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Once you've observed that you have a limit, it's then good to decide how important this limit is. You might "give in" on a trivial limit, for instance, but decide to observe & communicate more important limits to other people. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr What do you do once you observe that you have a limit (you label it as a limit & you decide it's an important limit to you)? Well, you have to communicate your limit to the other person. #BPDChat 1/2 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Yes, the other person may not be happy when you communicate your limit to them. It's important to remember that 'validation' can deescalate emotions. It's a good idea to validate the other's emotions or experience before you communicate your limit to them. #BPDChat 2/2 |
| Héctor Manuel Ramírez @CROWRDREAM @CarlDunnJr uhm... this is where knowing our values might be helpful. Why something is more important than something else. Self care (me) has become a top value. So saying no is becoming more important. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Check this out! This link has a brief summary of "observing limits" from Shari Manning's book. #BPDChat https://t.co/V4UtCdxBXd |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Short summary of steps to "observing a limit" (from Shari Manning's book). #BPDChat 1/7 |
 | 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey @mira113 @CarlDunnJr (Sorry-chiming in late)And even tho we all know we can do a small thing, seems like it would be comforting? knowing all u other bpdchatters are trying to do the exact same as me :)) #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Here's a short summary of steps to "observing a limit" (from Shari Manning's book). #BPDChat 1/7 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr 1) Make sure you know your limits (Identify your limits, notice when they are crossed...). If your limit is crossed, is it important enough to communicate to the other person? #BPDChat 2/7 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr 2) If limit is important, pick a good time when the other person isn't upset. Then, Describe the situation. (This is 'D' - "Describe situation" in DBT "DEAR MAN"). #BPDChat 3/7 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr 3) Express your feelings while validating & soothing the other person. (This is 'E' - "Express your emotions in DBT "DEAR MAN"). #BPDChat 4/7 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr 4) State the limit. Tell the other person what you want - you want something to stop or be different? (This is 'A' - "Assert your wishes in DBT "DEAR MAN"). #BPDChat 5/7 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr 5) Anticipate an emotional increase and move in to soothe and validate. (This is 'R' - "Reinforce the contingency" in DBT "DEAR MAN") - State the benefit for the other person. #BPDChat 6/7 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr 6) If appropriate, suggest or problem-solves ways the other person can abide by your limit. #BPDChat 7/7 |
| 🏴☠️G-Anne🏴☠️ @gacossey #bpdchat Hi everyone, sorry I’m late! Returned Monday from an awesome 10day vacay in 80+ heat..was 32 & snow this morning! Hope everyone is well |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Communicating your limit is better than letting your resentment build up until you blow up at the other person. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr The 7-tweet summary I just tweeted includes the 'DEAR' from the 'DEAR MAN' acronym from DBT skills. 'DEAR MAN' is a good way to tell someone else what you want - in this case, it's a great way to communicate a limit. #BPDChat - See the following: https://t.co/J3BKCMGHDN |
| FindHelp FindHope @FindHelpHope RT @CarlDunnJr: The 7-tweet summary I just tweeted includes the 'DEAR' from the 'DEAR MAN' acronym from DBT skills. 'DEAR MAN' is a good wa… |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Is this limit important to you? Then you need to think how to communicate that limit to the other person. #BPDChat 1/5 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr You can validate the other person first to help get their emotions down before you communicate your limit. #BPDChat 2/5 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Validation: "I know when you're lonely you feel like calling me." Limit: "I can't take your calls at night." #BPDChat 3/5 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Validation: "I know you're really worried about money & you want me to lend you some." Limit: "I choose not to loan you money." #BPDChat 4/5 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Validation: "I know you really want me to clean your apartment." Limit: I'm not going to clean your apartment." #BPDChat 5/5 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @CROWRDREAM Yes! I agree. Knowing your values is a big help in determining which limits are most important for you. (Knowing your values also takes practice and time). #BPDChat |
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