#bpdchat Transcript
Healthcare social media transcript of the #bpdchat hashtag.
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 | Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Hello and welcome to #BPDChat if you feel affected by tonight's chat please contact your country's helpline at https://t.co/GtlNdoZpFo |
 | BPD Chat @OfficialBPDChat RT @CarlDunnJr: Hello and welcome to #BPDChat if you feel affected by tonight's chat please contact your country's helpline at https://t.co/GtlNdoZpFo |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Also, check here for other links to emotional crisis support: https://t.co/fdwGqnYZ2q #BPDChat |
| BPD Chat @OfficialBPDChat RT @CarlDunnJr: Also, check here for other links to emotional crisis support: Also, check here for other links to emotional crisis support: https://t.co/fdwGqnYZ2q #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr If you're going to post something that may affect others please use TW Trigger warning #BPDChat |
| BPD Chat @OfficialBPDChat RT @CarlDunnJr: If you're going to post something that may affect others please use TW Trigger warning #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Icebreaker: If given a chance, which person would you like to be for a day? Or who would you like to exchange roles with? #BPDChat |
| BPD Chat @OfficialBPDChat RT @CarlDunnJr: Icebreaker: Icebreaker: If given a chance, which person would you like to be for a day? Or who would you like to exchange roles with? #BPDChat |
 | bpdvideo @bpdvideo Hello #BPDchat. Hope everyone is feeling well today/tonight. @CarlDunnJr |
 | Ihummingbirdz @ihummingbirdz @CarlDunnJr I never thought I would say these, but I’ll be my mom; she has been so strong and supportive... but I also understand it has been really difficult #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @ItzBorderline: @CarlDunnJr I never thought I would say these, but I’ll be my mom; she has been so strong and supportive... but I also understand it has been really difficult #BPDChat |
 | Meandmymhmatters BA (Hons) @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr I don't think I'd want to swap with anyone. Too stressful #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @ItzBorderline Hi! Welcome, and thanks for sharing that. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Meandmymhmatter: @CarlDunnJr I don't think I'd want to swap with anyone. Too stressful #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Meandmymhmatter Hi! It's smart to know your limits (and what's good for you). #BPDChat |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo @BPDFFS @CarlDunnJr Thankfully, yes #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Luciek11K Hi! Thanks for sharing that. I'm sorry that's the case. I'm glad you're here with us. #BPDChat |
 | scary jerry @AwkwardHandle RT @RupiResting: |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle RT @BPDFFS: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @RupiResting: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @RupiResting Hi! Welcome to the chat. Interesting! You're not the only person who doesn't like the idea here. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @BPDFFS: |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo @Borderline_911 @CarlDunnJr This is the place... welcome #bpdchat @CarlDunnJr |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @BPDFFS Hi, Sue! That's interesting. I'd like to be my dog. I probably wouldn't want that more than temporarily. I'm guessing I would change a lot of things for her after I knew her experience. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Vmw81: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Vmw81 Hi! Fascinating idea. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @bumblefren Hi! Welcome. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @RupiResting: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Borderline_911 Hi! Great! #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @strongertoget Hi! That would be interesting. #BPDChat |
 | Dresden / ドレスデン 🕯🩸 @Effloress @CarlDunnJr I would like the chance to experience what it's like to live as nearly any ordinary person who doesn't have BPD/other mental illnesses. I've always wondered what life would be like without the extra toppings. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @RupiResting: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @AwkwardHandle @BrkmstrCylinder Hi! Welcome. #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle @ragazzamygdala I assure you, the exasperation goes away after a while of simply not looking anymore. Should it happen, it'll happen. #pairbonding Mostly, I stay guarded and alone. #BPDchat |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo #bpdchat... |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle RT @BPDFFS: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Effloress: @CarlDunnJr I would like the chance to experience what it's like to live as nearly any ordinary person who doesn't have BPD/other mental illnesses. I've always wondered what life would be like without the extra toppings. #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle RT @Vmw81: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @ragazzamygdala Hi! Welcome to the chat. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @BPDFFS: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Effloress Hi! Glad you're here. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @DrJustace @bumblefren HI! Welcome to the chat. To participate search on the #BPDChat hashtag - you'll see everyone's tweets. Add the #BPDChat hashtag to your tweets so everyone else can see them. #BPDChat |
 | Suzie Young 💫 @SuzieYoungUK @DrJustace @strongertoget @CarlDunnJr @bumblefren Hiya my first time at #BPDChat too. Have lurked for a couple of weeks, wasn’t brave enough to join in! |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle @HeidiRoseC @BPDFFS There's no one way. Look at your way, not others, their ways aren't for you. #life #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Thanks for participating in the icebreaker. Time to cue up the main topic for tonight's chat.... #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Tonight's topic is... Judgments: Do you judge yourself & others? Improve your life by lessening your judging #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle RT @CarlDunnJr: Tonight's topic is... Judgments: Tonight's topic is... Judgments: Do you judge yourself & others? Improve your life by lessening your judging #BPDChat |
| BPD Chat @OfficialBPDChat RT @CarlDunnJr: Tonight's topic is... Judgments: Tonight's topic is... Judgments: Do you judge yourself & others? Improve your life by lessening your judging #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @SuzieYoungUK: @DrJustace @strongertoget @CarlDunnJr @bumblefren Hiya my first time at #BPDChat too. Have lurked for a couple of weeks, wasn’t brave enough to join in! |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @SuzieYoungUK @DrJustace @strongertoget @bumblefren Hi! Welcome to the chat. I'm glad you were brave this week. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr So do you judge yourself? Do you judge others? (I think we all judge ourselves/others to some extent). #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @RupiResting: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @BPDFFS: |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo RT @CarlDunnJr: @DrJustace @bumblefren HI! Welcome to the chat. To participate search on the #BPDChat hashtag - you'll see everyone's tweets. Add the #BPDChat hashtag to your tweets so everyone else can see them. #BPDChat |
| Dresden / ドレスデン 🕯🩸 @Effloress @CarlDunnJr Absolutely! My judgements, unfortunately, can be quite harsh. Especially while I'm splitting or during a moment of intense emotional irregularity. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Effloress: @CarlDunnJr Absolutely! My judgements, unfortunately, can be quite harsh. Especially while I'm splitting or during a moment of intense emotional irregularity. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Who do you judge or criticize more - yourself or other people? #BPDChat |
| Meandmymhmatters BA (Hons) @Meandmymhmatter @CarlDunnJr I judge myself heavily. Others not so much. It's really hard not to judge me #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @RupiResting: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @amobeirne Hi! Welcome. Thanks for sharing that. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @BPDFFS: |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle RT @Vmw81: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Meandmymhmatter: @CarlDunnJr I judge myself heavily. Others not so much. It's really hard not to judge me #BPDChat |
| Dresden / ドレスデン 🕯🩸 @Effloress @CarlDunnJr It sort of cycles. It depends who or what the focus of my splitting is, or what has triggered an emotional flare up in me. If I disappoint myself, I rip myself to shreds. But it's always silent brooding. I try not to bother others by my judgements. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Vmw81: |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle @BPDFFS Look up business self-help books about hiring. There's a famous quote from a business tycoon that the person you WANT to hire is the lazy person. They find the most efficient way to complete the job, so they can go back to being lazy. #BPDchat #DontJudgeYourself |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @valeriewalsh19 Hi, Valerie! #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Judging, for instance, saying "You are stupid" or "I am stupid" escalates emotions. If you instead accurately describe the situation, for instance, "I can't find my keys." emotions don't escalate to the same extent. #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle @HeidiRoseC Good and bad are subjective measures. You're on the right track. #BPDchat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle RT @CarlDunnJr: Judging, for instance, saying "You are stupid" or "I am stupid" escalates emotions. If you instead accurately describe the situation, for instance, "I can't find my keys." emotions don't escalate to the same extent. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @karinahagelin Hi! I'm glad you're here. #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle RT @janeymachine: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @BPDFFS: |
 | Spoonie @SpoonieZone @CarlDunnJr Try to remember: One would not call other people horrible names,so why would one say that of yourself? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Nontheborder Hi! Thanks for checking in. Take care of yourself. Hope you feel better soon. Reach out for support if you need it. #BPDChat |
| Dresden / ドレスデン 🕯🩸 @Effloress @CarlDunnJr This is super helpful advice! Separating an initial emotional thought from the action that triggered it leaves room for self reflection and a moment to perhaps de-escalate. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Judging (or criticizing) ourselves or others can cause us not to see reality accurately. If you instead "Describe" things without judgments, then you tend to see reality more accurately. #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle I like that a lot. Describe, rather than judge to keep emotions out of the equation. Since emotions are the issue with #BPD, this helps the math work out better. #BPDchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @evrythinggbagel That's an interesting reason. Thanks for sharing. #BPDChat |
| Dresden / ドレスデン 🕯🩸 @Effloress RT @CarlDunnJr: Judging (or criticizing) ourselves or others can cause us not to see reality accurately. If you instead "Describe" things without judgments, then you tend to see reality more accurately. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @mellomeup Yes. I like to ask people: How would you treat a best friend in this situation? (They would usually be very caring & forgiving). Now, try treating yourself with the same kindness. #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle @karinahagelin @janeymachine I let my wife knock out my teeth and leave me stranded in Alabama, after 9 years of withstanding abusive behavior from her in Pennsylvania. I always believed I deserved the poor treatment. #BPDchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @Effloress: @CarlDunnJr This is super helpful advice! Separating an initial emotional thought from the action that triggered it leaves room for self reflection and a moment to perhaps de-escalate. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @SpoonieZone: @CarlDunnJr Try to remember: @CarlDunnJr Try to remember: One would not call other people horrible names,so why would one say that of yourself? #BPDChat |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo RT @CarlDunnJr: Judging (or criticizing) ourselves or others can cause us not to see reality accurately. If you instead "Describe" things without judgments, then you tend to see reality more accurately. #BPDChat |
 | Grace Durbin @Grace_Durbin RT @CarlDunnJr: Who do you judge or criticize more - yourself or other people? #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Luciek11K Noticing, as your are doing, is a good start. #BPDChat |
| Grace Durbin @Grace_Durbin RT @CarlDunnJr: So do you judge yourself? Do you judge others? (I think we all judge ourselves/others to some extent). #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @cobaltjeff Hi! Welcome. #BPDchat |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo RT @CarlDunnJr: @mellomeup Yes. I like to ask people: @mellomeup Yes. I like to ask people: How would you treat a best friend in this situation? (They would usually be very caring & forgiving). Now, try treating yourself with the same kindness. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @LydiaAmiee @OfficialBPDChat Hi! Welcome to the chat. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @BPDFFS: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Example: (Judgment) Ralph is the worst person I've ever met, he's a terrible human being (and he stinks). - (Description) Ralph didn't pay me back the money he owes me and I'm upset with him. #BPDChat 1/2 |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr In previous example, it would also be a judgment to say: Ralph is the nicest person I've ever met. He's perfect! - This "positive" judgment also escalates your emotions (and potentially could lead you to making a bad decision based on the intensity of your emotion. #BPDChat 2/2 |
 | Aurelia Cotta @AureliaCotta @Borderline_OK Some things should be judged, like bigotry, cruelty, racism. Because reality exists and not everything is just a point of view. my couch is real, I'm real, using the N-word is racist. And it's a-ok to judge Nazis. non-extremists we let them clarify comments first #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr This is not telling you have to eliminate every single judgment, or else. This is saying that judgments offer cause us problems and reducing judging substantially can pay big dividends. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr It helps not to assume you know what the other person is thinking & feeling. If someone cuts you off in traffic, you can be judgmental & think the worst of that person (they're a bad person, etc.). What else could be going on? #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle @ragazzamygdala I swear sometimes I can smell a fresh diagnosis. My last girlfriend got a message from me about hanging out and getting coffee the INSTANT she sat down on her couch at home after getting released from a psych facility with a #BPD diagnosis. #bpdchat I have the shining. |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Judgments can keep us stuck in being emotionally dysregulated, our emotions may not come down when we're judging. #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle What's worse is that, after you step into the Total Perspective Vortex, you realize that, on a cosmic level, our worth is truly nothing. #BPDchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Using descriptions instead of judgments can help us to see the world more accurately & to stay emotionally regulated. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr How do you stop judging? One way: First of all, be mindful & notice when you use judgments. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Replacing judgments with descriptive words helps us bring emotions down and see things more accurately. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Saying "I lost my keys" rather than saying "I'm stupid!" is an example of describing factually rather than judging. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Saying "that painting is dreadful" is a judgment. Saying "that painting is blue & has thick brush strokes" is more descriptive. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr An alternative to judgments is describing: "That painting is mostly blue, with heavy brush strokes" is a description. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Your_raeofsun Hi! Thanks for sharing this! #BPDchat |
| Aurelia Cotta @AureliaCotta @CarlDunnJr Yes....and descriptions can help and it's also important to know that when we say that every point of view is valid, we may be endorsing someone who is being harmful. A victim of sexual assault does not simply have a "point of view" and we need to validate that reality #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @Your_raeofsun Ha! #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Conversations with others go better when you can let go of judgments & speak non-judgmentally. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr One way to notice how much you use judgments is to count them - spend a little time counting judgments when you notice them. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Judgments are not factual, they are an emotional way of looking at things in the world as either good or bad. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Preferences are fine to use & are different than judgments. "I prefer vanilla ice cream" is stating your preference. #BPDChat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle Easily, that's how. You and I are cut from the same cloth. We try to find people to "love" us, who loathe us to the same degree we loathe what we can piece together about our "selves." #BPDchat #whyistayed |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo @karinahagelin great idea #bpdchat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Noticing judgments, then re-stating judgments, and lessening judgments is a gradual project. It takes time and much practice - but it can be extremely beneficial. #BPDChat |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr Compassion and self-compassion can help lessen judgments. Here's a link to Kristin Neff's website on "self-compassion". #BPDChat https://t.co/04PKYIQ8ey |
 | CL @IndigoFairy17 RT @CarlDunnJr: In 10 minutes! #BPDChat ! Topic: Judgments: In 10 minutes! #BPDChat ! Topic: Judgments: Do you judge yourself & others? Improve your life by lessening your judging - 9pm BST (UK), 4pm EDT (US) #SPSM - 'You Are Not Alone' |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr RT @AureliaCotta: @CarlDunnJr Yes....and descriptions can help and it's also important to know that when we say that every point of view is valid, we may be endorsing someone who is being harmful. A victim of sexual assault does not simply have a "point of view" and we need to validate that reality #bpdchat |
| CL @IndigoFairy17 RT @BPDFFS: |
| Carl Dunn @CarlDunnJr @AureliaCotta Yes, indeed. Don't validate the invalid. #BPDChat |
| bpdvideo @bpdvideo RT @CarlDunnJr: Noticing judgments, then re-stating judgments, and lessening judgments is a gradual project. It takes time and much practice - but it can be extremely beneficial. #BPDChat |
| Aurelia Cotta @AureliaCotta @CarlDunnJr Except that some things are real. Like really dreadful paintings. Can we hold back from saying, based on time and place and who the artist is? Sure. But some things are really really bad. #bpdchat |
| Aurelia Cotta @AureliaCotta @CarlDunnJr I have seen therapists do this to patients when they assume all of the past events the patient is describing are "Exaggerated" and they validate the patients feelings, but quite clearly don't believe the event happened #bpdchat |
| scary jerry @AwkwardHandle I was considering not taking anti-anxiety meds today, then I dove a little deeper than usual into #BPDchat |
 | SKY | BPD @BPD_confessions @CarlDunnJr most definitely myself. #BPDChat |
| Ihummingbirdz @ihummingbirdz @CarlDunnJr Myself #BPDChat |
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